Being the favoured child

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I am the favoured child. I know that and it unfortunately means now I don't have very good relationships with my siblings.
I am wondering how other in a similar situation manage the relationships?
Through guilt I have often pushed my parents away/tried to deflect their attention. All this results in is my parent being upset and no improvement with my relationship with my siblings.
Not trying to upset anyone. Just feel there is a real possibility one day I won't have any family because of this. I have tried to have separate relationships with my siblings that don't involve my parents but that doesn't seem to work either.

I really sympathise, OP. I have a much easier relationship with my parents than my sibling does and I think from sibling's perspective it probably looks like I'm the favourite. I think all you can do, as you say, is try to keep separate relationships and be quite firm if you're asked to be piggy in the middle. I agree that it is really difficult, especially at this time of year.

This is exactly why favouritism is so damaging. Parents think they are lavishing their best on the favoured one when actually it’s absolutely destroying their sibling relationships. Can you talk to your siblings about it? I get it must be crushing for them but equally, this isn’t your fault either