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DS is supposed to volunteering with a view to work, but he's ill.

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Moku · 18/12/2022 17:03

He's supposed to be volunteering Tue, Wed, Thurs and if it goes well he could end up with a job which is in the area he wants to work and is ideal location.

Problem is we've ALL been ill since Friday and he's really poorly. Fever, headache, aches and pains etc.

They've asked him to come in tomorrow to sign some documents.

He can't go :(

Especially as it's childcare based and obviously don't want to give little ones this awful bug days before Christmas.

What should he say that doesn't sound like he's just unreliable and uninterested?

I'm just gutted as he's not been ill the whole year. Seriously, this is the first time he's been ill the whole of 2022.

Typical :(

I'm worried they'll think he's just changed his mind or can't be bothered :(

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Moku · 18/12/2022 17:05

It's also hard as it's a place he used to go for childcare as a baby himself (same staff!) so they've sort of 'found a space' for him as a favour 😭

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Mosaic123 · 18/12/2022 17:05

He should phone them when they open and sound very croaky and sad that he can't come in.

He should follow it up immediately with a polite and apologetic email.

MrsWooster · 18/12/2022 17:07

Tell them in the morning: suggest he doses himself up with paracetamol, wears a mask and steers clear of most people on Monday and hopefully he’ll be fine for Tuesday. Let them be the ones who say “we’d rather you didn’t come…” which might leave a door open for a later opportunity.

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Moku · 18/12/2022 17:07

I think it's probably covid but we've got no tests

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Maverickess · 18/12/2022 17:08

He could offer to go but explain he's unwell and his own concerns about passing things on to the children etc? Ask what their policy is regarding this?
It's totally shit timing though, and frustrating because it's totally out of his control that he's human and gets ill sometimes!

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 18/12/2022 17:10

Moku · 18/12/2022 17:07

I think it's probably covid but we've got no tests

Where do you live? Do your supermarkets not sell tests? You could go out and get some first thing and then he can either ring to say he has covid or that he is ill with something you know isn't covid

What are the other options?

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Moku · 18/12/2022 17:11

I honestly don't know if he could brave it out. He's lay on the couch, under a duvet, covered in sweat shivering.

I've got the same thing and I've had to cancel something for tomorrow that really need to do.

I'll see how he is first thing and get him to ring them and see what they think.

I really don't think he should go near anyone though. Its horrific

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Moku · 18/12/2022 17:12

AllThatFancyPaintsAsFair · 18/12/2022 17:10

Where do you live? Do your supermarkets not sell tests? You could go out and get some first thing and then he can either ring to say he has covid or that he is ill with something you know isn't covid

What are the other options?

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I don't drive and non of us are well enough to walk/get public transport.

I wonder if I posted on FB local group someone could drop one off?

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emmathedilemma · 18/12/2022 17:27

If he’s that ill, I don’t think it matters if it’s covid or not. He doesn’t sound well enough to go and i doubt they’d thank him for sharing his germs…..and I say that as someone who is currently cursing the people who came in the office coughing and spluttering last week as now I’ve got it too!

Mammyloveswine · 18/12/2022 17:27

What's he taken to help himself? Ive been ill this past week but so have a lot of colleagues so I've had no choice to go in.., ive dosed up on cold/flu meds, rested at home and basically ran on adrenaline!

Can he ring up tomo, explain the situation and try suck it up for the other days?

They likely will not want him in but if he shows willing it will definitely look better!

toomuchlaundry · 18/12/2022 17:32

If COVID didn’t exist would he be well enough to go in anyway, would he want to pass on this bug to anyone?

SnowStupid · 18/12/2022 17:35

I think all he can do is phone them very applogetic and tell then he's got covid (even if you can't confirm).

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Moku · 18/12/2022 17:37

SnowStupid · 18/12/2022 17:35

I think all he can do is phone them very applogetic and tell then he's got covid (even if you can't confirm).

I've had covid twice and it feels exactly the same as that.

I'll get him to ring them in the morning and see what they say.

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Moku · 18/12/2022 17:38

He's been taking paracetamol and ibuprofen all day and just resting. He's not moved off the couch. Hes not even ate anything and he eats like a horse.

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NOACF · 18/12/2022 17:41

He 100% can't go in to a childcare setting if he suspects Covid and risk passing it on to anyone who may be vulnerable. All he can do is phone them and be completely honest with them.

rookiemere · 18/12/2022 17:42

I'd get him to say it is Covid and he has done a test.

I know it's a bit of a white lie, but it sounds like it probably is covid and somehow it sounds more impressive and serious than your average cold.

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Moku · 18/12/2022 18:26

Covid test is negative.

He's gonna have a hot bath, early night.

He's supposed to be going I to the office at 5pm to sign a few things so won't be near any kids

Then hopefully he will be grand by Tuesday

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mincepiepie · 18/12/2022 18:32

He either needs to go or lie and say he has covid, had tested positive and is too Ill to work.

emmathedilemma · 18/12/2022 19:18

sounds like it could be flu then (proper flu not just man flu)

Greenfairydust · 18/12/2022 19:25

Some of the responses on this thread are truly bizarre.

He is sick and he is likely to be contagious so no of course he should not go anywhere near kids and staff.

He simply needs to ring the company and let them know he thinks he has Covid and is really unwell and re-arrange the document-signing meeting for a further date.

mincepiepie · 18/12/2022 20:23

If you have been in a School in the last week 50% are ill at any given time and around 10% are off. The winter viruses this year are vicious.

I just saw it was DS - originally I thought it was your DH. Not so bad if he rearranges. How old is he?

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