And I fear the only thing I can do about it is nothing.
A long standing male friend. We both became single at the same time c. 18 months ago so have spent more time together just because it's been convenient really. We've both had more time to fill. We've had fun, but only as friends.
Until a few weeks ago. He kissed me after a very drunken night out. That has never been mentioned since, but we've been out again and it was starting to feel a bit more "coupley".
We were out last night with other friends and he was polite but distant. He didn't exactly blank me, but he was so different to how he usually is I was worried that something was wrong and having had a bit to drink, I probably went on about it mentioned it a bit too much. He even refused to dance with me and he's usually a very enthusiastic dancer. I don't know what's changed. I feel that I was the very opposite of cool and probably even came across as desperate.
The daft thing is, I don't care if "we" don't go anywhere. He's a fun friend, but probably not partner material for me anyway. I do really value and enjoy his friendship though
Anway, instead of doing the sensible thing and leaving things be, I messaged him when I got home. Just asked him what was going on and said I hope we're OK. He replied he had a lot on his mind, we'll catch up soon. I fully expect not to hear from him.
But I can't contact him for the promised "catch up" can I? I'd really just like a conversation where we can agree things went a bit weird for a time, but we're still just good friends.
I suspect either, he's feeling the same way or he has grown "feelings" and is a bit scared/ worried, but me doing anything is only going to make things worse either way?