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Would you say anything?

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MozzieMoo · 18/12/2022 01:31

I have a cousin who is 14, I think she’s struggling but her parents seem oblivious.

My younger brother is in her classes at school and tells me that she’s often made fun of for having weird facial expressions and being vacant. They say the lights are on but no one’s at home. Which doesn’t really make much sense to me because she’s highly intelligent and in top classes for every subject. I wondered if it’s because she can be slow to respond when she’s spoken to.

She doesn’t really have any friends her age but she gets on well with us adults - her mum says it’s because she’s an old head on young shoulders and more mature than her peers. I’m not sure how mature she actually is as she seems very naïve to me. Any jokes or innuendo go straight over her head.

It’s crossed my mind that she could be autistic, there are multiple family members with autism. I’m just not sure it’s my place to say anything. I worry about the bullying though, she seems an unhappy teen.

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dolor · 18/12/2022 02:04

Of course you have to say something. Please. Say something.

DuchessDandelion · 18/12/2022 02:09

Maybe not autistic, perhaps adhd...But what you write does sound a little like neurodivergence, which can become noticeable in girls about her age.

MozzieMoo · 18/12/2022 14:14

I hadn’t really considered ADHD - I don’t really know much about it. Obviously not wanting to armchair diagnose…

Autism came to mind because I think she also has sensory issues. She always wears the same clothes and refuses to wear a bra, she has zero interest in fashion, doesn’t care as long as she is comfortable. She will only sit in certain seats and will flip out if a door is left ajar - it either has to be closed or open as wide as possible, nothing in between.

Her mum says she’s just a little idiosyncratic but I do think it’s more than that. I’m not sure how to help but it’s upsetting me the thought of her being made fun of at school.

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DuchessDandelion · 18/12/2022 17:44

I'm with you about not wanting go armchair diagnose but for info, sensory issues can be present in adhd as well. Take a look at the ADDitude website, it has lots of information about how the condition presents in women and girls.

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