What would you have said

[Slimjimtobe]

At a meal with work colleagues and day at different tables

work colleague knows I am dieting (she is too) and asked did I have dessert (I did) then said ‘what all of it?’ It was a medley thing and not big but then went really dramatic at me over it.

really hurt and I just wanted a night off from it

What would I have said? I've have said it was delicious and then stopped telling people i was on a diet. It just never helps with relationships.

Yes, I really enjoyed it.

Yeah she only talks about diets all the time. She said from January she’s really going for it and will be ‘on it’ and I know I’m in for a few months of brain overload (very nice person but it can be too intense)

She text did I enjoy it last night I just said it was fine. I don’t know should I say something (she’s quite stressed and opinionated)

OMG I would've been so pissed off!

Not sure what I would've said though

I just would’ve said, yeah I did, it was lovely - everything in moderation! Then stop talking to her about diets, it’s dull & only relevant for the individual, not a good topic of conversation.

I'd reply with:

"Yes I enjoyed my dessert thank you. I hope you don't take this the wrong way, but I would like it if we could stop talking about dieting/food in general. I know that we are both dieting, but I don't want it to completely take over our relationship and conversations. I'm trying to not get obsessed with what I 'should' and 'shouldn't' eat as it's not a healthy mindset for me to have about food."

Or ask her if she's okay, and that you're worried she's being a bit too enthusiastic with the restrictive eating.

Yeah she’s basically said she’s only going to talk about diets from January so I might say that I don’t want to get too carried away with diets but just exercise and be healthy.

she’s always asking what I am eating and looking at my lunch etc. Not in a mean way but she’s older and bossy and very confident though I am much more senior but quiet overall with people.

she’s always asking what I am eating and looking at my lunch etc. Not in a mean way but she’s older and bossy and very confident though I am much more senior but quiet overall with people

Can you have your lunch somewhere else or at a different time? She sounds toxic.

I would have said yes it was nice thanks.

Come January everytime she starts talking about diets you cut her short and start talking about an obscure topic - the same one each time. She should eventually get the hint.

Suggestions

Climate of Burkina Faso
Bose-Einstein Condensate
The Ford Mondeo range
Fatima Whitbread

😂😂
last year I worked with a really boring Covid denier paranoid woman and now this diet shite to listen to

ear plugs maybe ??

I love Fatima whitbread and did a level geography case study on Burkina Faso.. so maybe they are good options

I love Fatima whitbread and did a level geography case study on Burkina Faso.. so maybe they are good options

Go for it. The idea being that you do not even acknowledge or respond to her chat and you put up a wall of noise she cannot penetrate. Noise as in constant verbal emissions from you that leave her no window to speak. Rather than actual high volume noise.

If she works closely with you this might not be appropriate but for a random employee it will do the bizzo.