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A guy blocked me for no reason… what?

22 replies

Lol39448 · 17/12/2022 20:14

I met this guy a few weeks ago, we went on a date and had been messaging quite a lot since.

We messaged yesterday at about 5pm, all normal, but then out of the blue today told me he needed some space.

Then a few hours later I figured that he had blocked me? What the hell?!

It wasn’t going to lead to anything serious I don’t think, but we were enjoying each other’s company (at least I thought). And it has left me questioning why. It’s not the nicest of things to happen either…

If this has happened to you - why do you think people do this?

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Comedycook · 17/12/2022 20:15

I reckon he's married or got a girlfriend and he's been rumbled

Stardustkid · 17/12/2022 20:16

Some People are odd, probably best of getting out now, move onwards and upwards

HellsBells87 · 17/12/2022 20:17

Either already has someone and has freaked out about finding out or he didn't like you that much and is too awkward to tell you.

Circumferences · 17/12/2022 20:20

9/10 blokes do this because they're taken already, or stringing along numerous "options" before deciding which option to stick with.
He's a skank.
Don't worry about it.

pimlicoanna · 17/12/2022 20:24

I don't think he's necessarily married etc. he's just not in to you. He's blocked and moved on. That's just what lots of people do.

LaLuz7 · 17/12/2022 20:32

Circumferences · 17/12/2022 20:20

9/10 blokes do this because they're taken already, or stringing along numerous "options" before deciding which option to stick with.
He's a skank.
Don't worry about it.

Occam's razor. The simplest explanation is usually correct. The reason will be on this list.

underneaththeash · 17/12/2022 20:33

Who cares. He’s an arse.

Original poster
Lol39448 · 17/12/2022 20:33

@pimlicoanna really? We were messaging as normal and suddenly he then decided he was so massively uninterested in me he had to block me?
Ghost me fine but I think blocking is a bit extreme.

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YoullLog · 17/12/2022 20:44

Maybe he just got the ick?

HotChoxs · 17/12/2022 20:44

It's not about you.
Pointless going over it. Just count your blessings you dodged the bullet.

1dontunderstand · 17/12/2022 21:21

It isn’t about you.
ive done this. I was messaging a guy, we seemed to be a great fit, lots in common etc. Been on two dates. Realised he wasn’t for me, silly things like he smelled funny, not horrible, just not attractive?!? (I can’t explain it). friends said I should message and tell him a white lie, like I wasn’t over my ex.
I didn’t owe him an explanation so I chose not to reply to his messages.

LaLuz7 · 17/12/2022 21:42

@1dontunderstand how childish and cruel. Ghosting should only be acceptable when your safety is ar risk or the person has been horrible to you.

Such a pity it has become so normalised by now.

WunWun · 17/12/2022 21:45

Maybe he just met someone else. I think that's the problem with online dating, people just want to keep swiping forever to find the perfect person

SpinningFloppa · 17/12/2022 21:46

I don’t think it means he is married or dating someone not sure why people suggest that every time maybe he just wasn’t interested?

Interviewnamechange · 17/12/2022 21:49

He probably just realised it wasn’t going anywhere and bailed.

Its Very rude and lazy to just block though. Would take no time at all to extend human decency and just say they don’t see this going anywhere.

Suprima · 17/12/2022 21:49

-Maybe there was no spark and he didn’t want to waste his time on something that wasn’t serious?
-Or did you have sex? Then probably he is bored that the chase is over and has moved onto the next.
-Or more cynically, he could be married and didn’t want to get caught out

You went on one date, you don’t know each other and he didn’t want you contacting him again for whatever reason. There should be no emotional investment at one date and it honestly shouldn’t be a big deal. It’s best to avoid being a penpal for this reason!

Regularsizedrudy · 17/12/2022 21:51

Wife found out

Interviewnamechange · 17/12/2022 21:51

@1dontunderstand

What do you mean it isn’t about the OP? You have literally just detailed how you did the same thing because of things about the other person you didn’t like.

BabychamBubbles · 17/12/2022 21:51

Probably got back with an ex or met someone else. It's hurtful and frustrating not knowing why, but really the fact that he blocked you is all you do actually need to know to not waste another nanosecond of your precious time thinking about him or why he did what he did. Just move forward x

FloydPepper · 17/12/2022 21:53

SpinningFloppa · 17/12/2022 21:46

I don’t think it means he is married or dating someone not sure why people suggest that every time maybe he just wasn’t interested?

Because he’s a man and he therefore must be at fault somehow.

Speedweed · 17/12/2022 21:55

Comedycook · 17/12/2022 20:15

I reckon he's married or got a girlfriend and he's been rumbled

This, every time. He might not even have been rumbled, in my experience there are a large number of men who won't have actual affairs but will dip their toe in cheating waters by messing about on online dating, and then have to back off fast and block when they end up meeting someone nice. It's weird but it means they stay within their 'moral' code, because they haven't cheated on their wives by having sex with someone else and they also haven't had even an emotional affair or messed you about, because you only had one date. Win win for them, the fuckers.

Nothing to do with you.

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Lol39448 · 18/12/2022 18:40

Thank you everyone…

Still feels a bit harsh but mergh, life too short to think about it anymore!

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