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Is it disrespectful to stroll around a cemetery?

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FuckConvoGiveMeAForest · 17/12/2022 11:57

Only on the footpath obviously. Not visiting, just walking through it. The trees and birds etc... so peaceful. But is it wrong? I'm in two minds 🤔

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teaandtoastwithmarmite · 19/12/2022 14:09

I used to walk through one when dd was in her pram. It was near a nature reserve. One day she wouldn't stop crying so I stopped at a bench and fed her. Might sound weird but it was very peaceful.

ApocalypseNowt · 19/12/2022 14:19

I love a good mooch round a cemetery. They're fascinating places and I like the quiet - sometimes I sit with a book & have a read, sometimes I wander around looking at inscriptions & think about the lives people had.

When I was a kid my dad used to take us to cemeteries for a afternoon out!

And when I studied geology we often used to visit a cemetery if there was one nearby - great way of seeing the local stones of an area!

eddiemairswife · 19/12/2022 22:41

My friend and I used to explore West Norwood Cemetery. I remember the Greek section where we could go into the vaults and see the coffins placed on shelves. My Grandma lived opposite in Robson Road.

ProserpinaProserpina · 19/12/2022 22:51

I can’t resist a stroll through an old churchyard given the opportunity. Old graves are fascinating.

I do run through the cemetery of my ‘local’ church (we’re rural, it’s not that near) as there is a footpath running through it that joins up to a road. Obviously if there was a funeral I’d walk, but the idea that running is somehow less respectful than walking is odd to me.

DosCervezas · 19/12/2022 22:57

Not at all, we have an enormous cemetery with it's own road network nearby, its perfect to cycle or jog a few safe and peaceful laps traffic free , which me and a few others do. It's a spiritual place to exercise and reflect in one.

Tonsiltrouble · 19/12/2022 23:06

Our local cemetery is bustling with life, it is a busy pedestrian route with commuters, dog walkers, and joggers on the main thoroughfare but also lots of quieter paths to follow too, and at this time of year it has baubles in the trees. It’s a great place to watch wildlife.

I’ve never thought about it being disrespectful to run through it but I wonder if that’s because it’s not in current use and has been quite some time since burials were carried out there. It’s rare to see actual mourners but there are some graves which are clearly tended still.

It’s one of my favourite places.

LesOliviers · 19/12/2022 23:08

I don't think so. It's a public space and as long as you're not being loud and lairy, I don't see the issue.
When my dad had his heart attack, he was told to start gentle exercise in the form of walking and build up his stamina. He used to walk up and down the paths between the rows of graves at the local cemetery. It's on a hill, so he could have a bit of exertion going up the hill and catch his breath walking back down. He also liked the peace and quiet, plus he said all the gravestones reminded him of exactly why he was exercising in the first place. He said it spurred him on!

willowstar · 19/12/2022 23:18

I regularly walk around our local cemetary. It hasn't been used for almost 100 years. I especially stop at the graves of the little babies and children and think of them and their parents, the lives not lived and the pain of loss, and how sad it is that there is no-one to remember them now. I take my children to graveyards too sometimes. Death is part of life. They are places to reflect on that and think of what has gone before.

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