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Not feeling very resilient!

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Belatedeyebrows · 17/12/2022 10:38

A year ago I gained a promotion in a school setting. This September, the role has been revised and rather than head of assessment, I am now overseeing a whole department. In my department are 3 people who also went for the promotion but there was only one role.
Since the role was revised, I've had lots of back lash. Lots of emails including me but also, going around me in terms of staffing/content and structure. Things that fall hnder my remit but I am responsible for if things go wrong. I believe it's a passive aggressive play under the guise of "we're a team." It has become more prolific since the role was revised.
I've found this really difficult, alongside how one staff member continues to talk to me in a public setting. Calling me a "spokesperson" and questioning my decisions openly but in a fairly aggressive way.
I know people are resistant to change. I also feel given their years of experience and wealth of knowledge that they feel they would be better placed as the HoD.
I pick my battles accordingly, I try and play to everyones strengths but I feel so deflated and not very thick skinned.

Any tips on how I can toughen up while still getting the best of my team?

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Belatedeyebrows · 17/12/2022 12:56

Perhaps I should post this in a different topic section?

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Sickoffamilydrama · 16/02/2023 13:04

Not sure where else this post could go OP.

I'll post a more detailed reply later but wanted to boost your post and say you aren't alone in experiencing difficulty once you're promoted.

Belatedeyebrows · 18/02/2023 15:13

@Sickoffamilydrama thank you for the boost. I really appreciate it :)

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