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Am I just an ego boost?

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Whytheego · 17/12/2022 09:54

So my friend has changed so much in the last year , I loved spending time with her but last time I left I was genuinely in tears , she never knew this.

she spent half the evening saying I should be doing better in my career and I should push myself more and she doesn’t know how I do the same job for so long , and going on about how successful she is - she mentions her wage every time I see her (like I forget or something ) and saying do I just wanna do the same job for the rest of my life .

im happy in my job (it’s good pay but it’s no where near the huge massive overpayment she gets for her role- can’t expand too much on that as outing ) but I would never speak to my friend like this , she literally has no empathy for anything ? She will rarely ask how you are and just goes on literally how fantastic she is and how all these companies are begging her to work for them .

I never used to leave feeling this crap , I hate to throw this word around but she’s turned into a huge narcissist, if I spoke to her about it she would just say I’m too sensitive (I’m not ) but the way she’s become makes me not wanna spend time with her .

I suppose I’m asking has anyone else had people in their life just change like this ? And what did you do ?

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TheLightSideOfTheMoon · 17/12/2022 09:56

It sounds like her work is all she has.

That’s actually really sad.

HS1990 · 17/12/2022 09:56

Sorry to hear your dilemma. If it were me, I'd back off slowly. Friends like that can't be maintained long term.

coffeeisthebest · 17/12/2022 10:36

What did I do? I realised that I was now seeing a deeper side of her that she hadn't expressed fully before, or that I hadn't taken seriously enough and now it was time for me to walk away. Hard but necessary. She sounds like a cowbag.

Whytheego · 17/12/2022 11:13

Thanks for your replies 😊

I think I would love to distance myself from her (I think I have been doing without even thinking I was doing that ) but I live in hope , as I don’t have many friends (which I’m ok with ) I have a family to look after , however she was always my closest and the one I enjoyed time with the most.

she has loads of friends I mean loads like a new one each week , so I suppose I don’t really mean that much to her because she has loads of others to fall back on …. Maybe why she has started speaking to me she does .

I thought by this age friendships would just be normal and easy.

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