Excluded from family Christmas dinner

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Long time lurker... first time poster

So found at yesterday that my DP family, including my MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, extended family are all meeting up this weekend...in fact the only family not invited is us!

So DP did speak to MIL who was initially apologetic but the quickly became defensive and attributed this to an oversight, but I cant believe anyone would forget to invite their own child and DGC. Other kids are present so it's not an adults only event.

At the minute, I don't know what to do other than support DP but I also feel incredibly hurt that my DC have been left out.

Any tips on navigating this?

Well it is what it is. Your DP was excluded and must be feeling it. Surely if you weren’t at this family event others would comment? Or is this the dynamic where there if favourites so other siblings feel smug rather than question why others aren’t here.

I wouldn’t go and I would support your DP and would reconsider the weekly visits with the grandchildren. As if they know there is favouritism it is not a good dynamic for them to be brought up around .

Yeah? I'd make her want.
Don't confirm anything - there's a fair chance the kids will be busy playing with all their new toys anyway, so maybe she'll just have to get used to not being invited. 🤔😉