Recommendations for husband Christmas gift

[Christinatherabbit]

Me and my husband have been through a horrific year. He's struggled with metal health and serious addictions and we separated for a few months in summer due to his destructive behaviour.

He really really damaged us both for quite a few years. Long story short he made massive changes and totally turned his life around and is trying so hard to put everything right.

It wount happen over night but right now I really want to support him and need some ideas of a something I can plan in the new year as a Christmas present that could give us some much needed bonding and healing as a couple.

I was thinking a weekend break that would involve a lot of relaxing and bonding. A spa maybe, love the thought of horse riding or floatation tank and just generally being with nature and re connecting. We are In surrey but could travel. Anyone have any ideas?

I'm normally so good with researching this type of thing but I'm drawing blanks.

Every year I give my DH a couple of nights away, just the two of us, as his main gifts. It tends not to be spa or relaxation so much as pottering and shared experience, for example, a day ticket to an interesting (to him) attraction and a local DB&B deal. This year we visited Blenheim one weekend and Highclere another (DH is interested in Egyptology).
For 2023 I've booked a London museum and dinner trip and a Northern city break with walking tours.
Might something like that (based around your DH interests) work for you ?

Thanks so much. Some lovely ideas here! Seems like the last few years have only been about us as parents and I'm desperate to find 'us' again. I adore my children but we seem so lost as a couple atm and I miss the way we were!

You can buy vouchers that give him the choice to book what he most likes the look of. Places like buyagift or redletterdays have options where you can pick a voucher for couples and then he can pick the place he likes the look of best from the options on the voucher. The act of choosing together could be a nice way of bonding again.

Thank you so much this makes sense. I'm so used to planning EVERYTHING. 5 kids so birthdays, Easter, holidays, Christmas...everything falls to me. When it comes to adult stuff I draw a blank
Really appreciate your reply

Lucknam park or The Calcot and Spa would be my recommendations - not cheap though!

Spa sounds ideal

I do this every year for Dh-gives is both something to look forward to and he doesn't really need anything else.

Sorry, wrong thread 🤦‍♀️

How about a couple of smaller things to look forward to...a groupon experience one afternoon, a treehouse overnight stay somewhere in the U.K., a day at a nice pool eg. Bath Spa, lunch in a local restaurant just you two..... I've no idea of budget but a European city break would be nice!

I've just discovered The School of Life. Hoping some of their resources might help me and my partner to feel closer again. (We have 4 kids and very little time together.) you can also get a game called "A little more conversation." For adults to play.

Sounds like you've had an incredibly tough year 🙁. Really hope this next one is much better.

www.theschooloflife.com/shop/connect-game/
(I got it cheaper on eBay...)