Feel so lonely

[Mummyboy1]

Basically the title...I'm going to be alone with my 11 month old on Christmas day and that wasn't the plan. I've never felt like this for Christmas, I've never been alone. I know I've got my son but he won't be excited. Maybe I should just pretend it's a normal day, like a weekend??.

Why is this the situation OP.. wjat about parents , siblings , family, friends ? So hard to know what to say with so little information.. xx

No family or friends to go to? Xx

I’m sorry your Christmas Day is going to be lonely for you OP. Your little boy will be happy just to be with you, and he’s old enough to perhaps enjoy unwrapping some noisy toys with you that he can play with which could be nice? Can you spoil yourself a little - perhaps a nice film, some Xmas food that isn’t too elaborate to prepare and a bubble bath when he’s in bed? X

I don't know your circumstances. I have friends who discovered the best Christmas ever for them was ignoring all the 'official' Christmas behaviour and spending the day in PJs, eating egg and chips, watching films and ignoring the rest of the world. It's a day where you won't get pestered by anyone because people are busy themselves.

Could that be a good way to look at it, if you've no other plans?

I’m alone every Xmas with my kids (single parent) I prefer it tbh!

This could be the day to tear up the rule book and do exactly what the two of you would fancy/make the day about something memorable. Go to top of high hill and view the world in peace. Join local volunteers at soup kitchen and help out there. Pick a project and spend the day doing it (like make something together)... Anything except feeling like you have to go through the motions as a sad duo. 💕 Good luck op, but I hope you think of something interesting... It doesn't have to fit the mould.

Thank you, I'm sure I can make it a good day, just wasn't expecting it. Tv, cheese on crackers and new toys 😊

Merry Christmas to you and your gorgeous little one.
Sometimes things aren't quite as planned, but that's okay. Go with it, make the most of what you do have and do what makes you both happy.
In years to come you might look back on that first, magical Christmas with just you and him, as a really treasured memory.

Lots of people will be alone. Lots of people will be with others yet still feel alone.
Have the day that you want. And remember that it’s just a day.

Is that reflective of your every life or is it just the one day because all your family/friends have other plans?

If the latter I'd suggest just planning a nice day with no pressure on you to do anything. Eat what you like in front of the TV if that appeals, or put the little one in the car and drive somewhere beautiful for a walk, it's a good day to go somewhere that's usually difficult to park.

The baby doesn't need to do anything different because it's Xmas day so you can absolutely please yourself.

I hope you have a relaxing day.

Just do what feels right for you.
it's ok not to follow traditions, l will have a nice long hot bath whilst listening to some music, throw the dinner in the oven at some stage during the day, eat treats, spoilt my pets, and love that l am not burdened with running around like a headless chicken seeing to others.

Sorry, misread... Thought your son was 11yo not months old. Silly me.
Even better though perhaps as he will have no expectations at all, so you can satisfy your own wishes for what the day can be.
Sorry you're not getting the Xmas you wanted but I hope you manage a nice time despite that.