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If you won 160k

31 replies

Hibye23289 · 14/12/2022 20:56

I suppose lighthearted. There was a competition on the radio today that was offering 160k in your account by the end of the day which led me to think how much would I give to my husband who I separated from this year over his financial fuck ups, he is the father to my children, I don't hate him he loves the kids but still struggles to pay maintenance but has brought them alot of xmas presents so I am torn on how I feel, anyway that's a whole different story.

So what would you give to them, if anything at all? Would you feel guilty not giving them any even if you don't get on?

And no I haven't won this money. I wish!

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AlwaysFullOfQuestions22 · 14/12/2022 20:59

No i wouldn't give my ex the drippings from my nose!

ScarlettOHaraHamiltonKennedyButler · 14/12/2022 21:01

He is your ex? I would give him nothing. Why would you? You have DC to raise and you say he struggles to pay maintenance, you would use the money to benefit yourself and your DC.

Deafdonkey · 14/12/2022 21:02

I'm not convinced I'd tell my husband...certainly not an ex

Justmuddlingalong · 14/12/2022 21:03

I wouldn't give my ex the reek off my shit.

Tallulasdancingshoes · 14/12/2022 21:03

I wouldn’t give them anything, but I would offer to buy things that the dc might need for when they’re at his house - for their bedrooms etc. The rest I’d keep as missed maintenance payments.

CornishGem1975 · 14/12/2022 21:03

I'd not give my ex the steam off my piss so he'd not get a £ of my £160k.

I'd pay off the mortgage, buy a new car, have a bloody awesome holiday and save a bit for emergencies.

SweetSakura · 14/12/2022 21:05

I would make sure my ex didn't get wind of it! But he was verbally and financially abusive and still is.

DH ex on the other hand, I would probably treat her to something as she has become a good friend, and would certainly make sure we paid more than our fair share of split costs for a while

OhhhhhhhhBiscuits · 14/12/2022 21:06

I would pay off a loan, pay off half the mortgage, finish the renovation work we want to do, go on holiday and then save the rest.

Georgeskitchen · 14/12/2022 21:18

Nope!! Not a sausage to my ex!!

FTY765 · 14/12/2022 21:21

I'd hope we'd already be divorced! Because if not, can he not claim half of it as his in the divorce? (genuine question)

FTY765 · 14/12/2022 21:23

Anyway to answer your question maybe depending on the relationship, I would give him a small amount but honestly, most likely not.

NotToBeOrToBe · 14/12/2022 21:27

I wouldn't even tell him, let alone give him anything.

mackthepony · 14/12/2022 21:29

Probably two new bathrooms and a new car. Rest in the bank

EweCee · 14/12/2022 21:31

Pay into mortgage which would get me significantly closer to being mortgage free within the next 10 years!

Starseeking · 14/12/2022 21:35

I wouldn't even think about my EX, he'd get given the grand sum of zero.

UsingChangeofName · 14/12/2022 21:37

how much would I give to my husband who I separated from this year over his financial fuck ups

So the main reason you split is because he has no financial sense?
I can't understand why you would even consider for a nano-second then giving him more money to lose Confused

felulageller · 14/12/2022 21:38

If you're still married wouldnt he get half in the divorce?

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Hibye23289 · 14/12/2022 21:38

I am way too nice!!!! 😂

I need to get tougher! Some of these comments have made me laugh though!

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LadyMonicaBaddingham · 14/12/2022 21:40

Pay off the mortgage and buy an electric car.

sanityisamyth · 14/12/2022 21:43

I wouldn't give him a penny! He stole over £50k from me when we were married, and took out a further £25k in credit cards and loans in my name and left me to pay off (without my knowledge so I defaulted on them and I'm still waiting them to clear from my credit report so I can get a mortgage!).

NOACF · 14/12/2022 21:54

I don't have an ex but if I did he certainly wouldn't be getting any of it! As a pp said, perhaps a few nice things for your DC at his house would be the limit.
I'd move to a bigger, nicer house if I won.

Lindy2 · 14/12/2022 21:55

Why would you even think about giving an ex anything? He's an ex. Apart from child contact everything else should be kept completely separate ie finances, relationships, work etc.

I'd happily share winnings with my DH, children and wider family but not an ex.

Probablymagrat · 14/12/2022 22:07

I would give my kids 30K each and keep the 100k for myself. I would get the house renovations done which will probably cost about 40k. I'd put 40k into savings leaving 20k for fun and I'd turn the bloody heating up, thats for sure.

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Hibye23289 · 15/12/2022 09:25

@Probablymagrat I love that!

@Lindy2 I know, i always feel guilty that he is so shit with money, so to see him suffer knowing I could help. Maybe if I had a new partner I wouldn't feel like this towards an ex

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Pismascrescents · 15/12/2022 09:42

visit my child with my family ❤️

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