Do you feel negative/sour grapes about old jobs?

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Tomorrow I have to go to a nearby town (not my usual "town" where we do shopping, kids school etc)
I had a job there I didn't get on with.
I will walk past the workplace and I know I will feel weird/annoyed/pissy about it. Not for long but I will def feel 🙄as I go past.

I also saw a post on LinkedIn from a colleague at a different old workplace which was so gushy about how great it is to work there that made me think as well.
Is it just me? Or do others feel like this when they move on?

Depends on the experience surely. One job I look back on really fondly, I made great friends and loved it there but got ‘promoted’ without a pay rise so moved on when I knew I couldn’t progress. The one I most recently left I was very glad to leave but don’t feel any ill will toward the people, just relief.

I do feel a little smug sometimes looking at the website and seeing they still haven’t got up to speed with something I was responsible for since I left (it was all in my handover I swear!) but I’m probably the saddo for checking up on it!

Yes maybe I need to work more on "closure" this was pre covid... so lots happened since this.

Had to leave one role with a Settlement agreement which had 23 pages of confidentiality clauses. Bit of a record for the employment lawyer handling my side.

Of course it was hilarious that when they did get caught finally, and i had police interviewing me, i was able to share all.

Good to see comeuppance.

what goes around comes around..

yea, I worked at a place in the 90's. The two
main managers were in a relationship and they were just nasty gossips, really awful. I'm friends with ex
colleagues on facebook and they're always gushing about what a wonderful job and weren't they the best boss. Er, nope. They were toxic as hell. Really unpleasant and frequent public bitching about members of staff. We had a smoking room where a lot of the gossip went on. Maybe being a non smoker put me at a disadvantage.
And another 90's job, where I had the audacity to apply for an internal promotion which someone else thought she should've got. She was lovely to me before the promotion and utterly utterly vile afterwards. She left her husband for one of the salesmen too. Lovely person.

I've since worked in some lovely places with some absolutely gorgeous humans, so don't know why these two places still bug me. Maybe because I didn't get a chance to tell them what utter twats they were?

Yes, I worked in a resort that (it turned out) decided not to give me any of my share of the tips. If I ever see the sign for it even I feel a sense of dislike, but it's more dislike (and wanting to avoid) than something stronger. Same with a couple of other places where I was treated unfairly - usually where I was the youngest person!

Oh god yes.

There was one place I worked at when I was 17-20. I was mainly alone all day, it was on the middle of a dodgy, mostly empty industrial estate. One day, two massive blokes kicked in the door and threatened me.

I just let them walk in, legged it out of there, ran to the cafe near by who called the police.

My boss was fuming with me. Sacked me on the spot when he saw me, I should have protected his business apparently, even if it meant putting myself in danger. Not a fucking chance i’d be doing that for any job!

He’s quite big in that business now and I sometimes see the bastard in the press.

Yes I do. Most of my old places of work were jobs where I was let go because of "downsizing". One place I was let go of from twice and one I was let go a day after my DM passed away. I feel ill even when I see the building in passing.

No, tbh, and I've had a couple of jobs I've ended up hating. One in particular was very toxic. My mental health was affected at the time but I moved on ASAP, squeezed out of it some good experience for my CV and now couldn't give a toss. I made an amazing friend there though and it has really stayed with her. We talk about it every time we meet (at her initiation). I think some people are just better at moving on and not looking back, and some reflect for a lot longer.

There was one place I avoided going past until the owners retired. Otherwise mostly I feel a sense of delight that I don't work in my past workplaces any more.

Not now, I left over 10 years ago but it took me a long time to decompress from that job and there is one person who I still hate and a few others I would say I resent. But the actual business closed down soon after I left and the building now belongs to someone else so its more about specific people than the place. I have lots of happy memories and some friends from there too. When we get together now our old jobs don't even get mentioned, we have moved on.

I used to work as agency staff for a few slaughter houses. I could shout,scream and cry for the suffering that I know happens there.
I went there as an indifferent vegetarian who was firmly in the "let folks eat what they want" camp.
But now I know too much and those choices have victims.
So i take very long detours so I don't pass them anymore.

Yes, I had a shitty time in my last 2 jobs. I was Treated like crap in one school, moved to another who proceeded to do exactly the same. I mean 2 full time jobs left to me, no support, no CPD or line management. Paid well under the going rate for the role. So I left, and no one on the leadership team even said goodbye. And yet I still feel really sour and bitter about it, and was genuinely upset when my old post was advertised.

I don’t think it’s unusual, it is a relationship that you invest time and emotional energy into, and everyone likes to feel valued and respected. To be en masse rejected by people you work for and with is really hurtful. However, I remind myself that I don’t want to work for people who treat staff this way. I’m worth more.

I think every relationship in life will shape how you see the world, and that includes work colleagues, both good and bad.

One thing I would say is that smaller companies are more likely to move. There was a street I avoided walking down for ages, then one day I googled them and found they'd moved to a different part of town so it was all okay.