When did your toddler stop these baby things...?

[mariahcareyearworm]

What age was your toddler doing the following please?

• moving out of cot into child's bed
• stopping using high chair
• stopping getting dressed on changing mat? (Linked to potty training perhaps).

First child so I'm clueless my son is 2.5 and he is still in cot, sleeping bag and high chair. I know he would not stay in a bed and would be ridiculously silly if given a duvet so I'm happy with it for now. He hasn't worked out how to climb out of the cot and it's an extra large one which converts to a bed so there's enough space. High chair is still easiest, again because he's very very boisterous and is really silly when sitting in chairs!

Just wondering when I should be thinking of switching up!

(Thinking of potty training in the Spring).

I think a lot of these things depend on the parent and preferences TBH

Never found a changing table helpful, changing mat on floor I used more but from 6 months or so I found easier to dress them sitting on my lap. One child could dress themselves by 1.5 - 2 years and the other more like 5 (!) but whatever they needed help with, going from baby stage through to child with buttons that needs doing up was more like on my lap or next to me not on a mat.

Highchair about 18 months maybe? Neither particularly liked it, so as soon as they were big enough to sit on a chair. I found from about 2-3 you don’t get offered them in restaurants.

Never mastered the cot.. neither would tolerate sleeping in it so we co-slept so I guess the answer is always slept in a bed.. but never alone! The shift then to sleeping in own bed alone was so gradual I couldn’t put even a rough date on it.

Another big one that people seem to mention a lot on here is when the toddler gives up the pram and I think that’s a good example of how everyone is so different and it’s a lifestyle choice.
For instance - some people mention toddlers being out of the pram not long after they start walking. I assume for the most part these are heavy car users. I’ll easily walk 15,000 - 20,000 steps every day so I’d be shocked to see a 1 year old who would walk miles and miles well, although I’m sure some do exist. I can easily imagine giving up the sling / pram at 15 months though if we were just talking about driving to nursery or driving to the supermarket.. I guess like so many things, you’re comparing apples with oranges..
All lifestyles and preferences are different.

My son is 3 and he was out of a highchair at 2.
He has his own wee table and chair set but now we also have a dining table he sits with us on a normal chair.

He sleeps in what was his cot which is also a cotbed so we just had the side panel taken off. Think that was about 2 as well.
Changing mat was gone around 2.5 I think.

Moved from co-sleeping in my bed around age 3, hated high chair and sat on bench at table around age 2. Can't remember where I dressed her!

My son is 4, I think he was 3 when we moved from the cot and around the same age when we got rid of the highchair.

We still dress him laying down in the mornings, when we change his nappy. He can do it himself but it takes forever.

Dd.
Bed at 12. Bed bar removed at 18m
Toilet trained 22m
Pedal bike no stabilisers 3 yr
Walked 9m
Full sentences byy 17m

Youngest age 3
Still wont use potty or toilet for more than a day
Bed by 18m no bed bar after 3 weeks.
Still has dummy!
No where near bike riding
Only just saying sentences

They're all different

Is he at nursery at all, or just at home with you? I think at two and a half he could be moved from a high chair to a booster type seat. Does he feed himself well or are you feeding him? Same with dressing him lying on the changing mat like a tiny baby, at two and a half he can start ‘helping’ dress himself and taking a bit of independence. You would think it’s too young, but it’s bit by bit. First he helps by stepping into his trousers, and moving his arms into his t-shirt, then he starts to develop understanding of how clothes are put on. That doesn’t happen if he’s just lying on a changing mat being manoeuvred into his clothing.

It sounds as well like some of this is about you not wanting to challenge your son and help him draw appropriate boundaries - he’s ‘boisterous’ and ‘really silly’ when he sits in a chair because he hasn’t had practice at sitting nicely yet, but it’s an important thing to learn. He’d certainly be expected to do so at nursery.

Bed - DC1 was in a normal single bed by 20 months, DC2 never had a cot or a normal single bed, DC was in a normal single bed by 13 months.

High Chair - DC1 had one of those with a tray and it was massive so it wasn’t used after 12 months. DC2 and 3 had the convertible kind that sit up to the table and DC3 still uses theirs when we have lots of guests. DC3 is 10.

Dressing on a changing mat - didn’t really do this in the first place. Definitely not past being able to stand or walk when they would stand up for help with their clothes. They were definitely picking out their own clothes and having a go at getting in and out of them themselves by 2, but needed help with sleeves and fiddly parts for a while after that.

So my answers vary between - never did it ever, to aged 10. There’s no right or wrong thing here.

18m old, have the tripp so now just climbs up to the chair when they want food. Still in a cot as they’re a wriggler and will climb over and under anything and we don’t have stair gates. Still has a bottle at night. I’m not really bothered. There are not many adults that still sleep in a cot and drink from a bottle.

Ds1 was still in his cot (cot bed sized but still set up as a cot) until 3.5yrs. He liked it, had slept soooooo Badly as a baby but slept well as a toddler so I was loathe to change it. Both ds had the sides off their cot beds at the same time. So 3.5 and 2 yrs.

Highchair - ds1 was 2 because that was when ds2 was months. Ds1 had a chicco pocket snack at the table.

Getting dressed, I didn't ever dress them on the changingmat. Most often on my bed when babies, then when older it would be in rhe front room because I have hideous stairs and cba to take 2 toddlers up again after breakfast.

Around 18 months for all of them, although into a cot that turned into a bed (he's in a big boy bed at just over three) and he's just stopped using his booster seat.

Out of sleeping bag at 18mo (during the summer he didn’t have any covering, just a sleepsuit, and then just progressed to a duvet when it got chillier again)

Out of cot and high chair at 2.5ish when he started trying to climb out of both. Still sometimes gets a high chair in a cafe/restaurant/at grandmas house if he’s being a bit shuffly or distracted - luckily still fits at 3yo!

Started changing him on the floor / standing up when he could consistently stand, so about 12-14mo. I’d got into a habit of changing him in the bathroom when at other people’s houses and it’s much easier to do that standing up, and it was also a good precursor to potty training as he could see me put the nappy contents into the toilet, get used to washing hands afterwards etc.

My youngest just turned 2 and is still in cot. Getting dressed on a mat is 50/50. Other times I chase him around! He stopped using a highchair around 20 months.

My eldest switched to a toddler bed at 2.5 and we potty trained shortly after so we stopping changing on the mat.

DD just over 3, converted cot to bed just before 3 (it was the largest cot we could find so roomy enough but she had started vaulting over the side and we don’t have carpet).

stopped sitting in high chair before 3 (we’ve only used it in the kitchen for a while now) she still likes to sit on a stool and use the tray as a table for breakfast. Can reach the dining table to eat anyway so has sat at the table for a few months

we still use the nappy changing table for things like hair drying and moisturiser before bed as it’s easier for me. Been day dry since just before 2yrs (with accidents obviously) and refusing nappies even though she’s struggling to wake up in the morning to go for her pee (definitely dry though the night though) so nappies not needed anymore (just lots of washing 🙄). Trying to get her to dress herself so she usually has to sit on the floor to get her knickers and trousers on.

Potty trained as he turned 3..
Into toddler bed at 2..
Stopped getting changed on a mat before 2 as it was easier for him to stand and be cleaned

Why?

• a bed with rail guards is essential a big cot and notice they were in my bed until then and then I was in their for a long time with DD2.

Mine went into their proper beds around 2. High chairs - largely fuelled by nursery who sit them at a table on a chair in the toddler room so pretty much by 2 again they don't want to go in the high chair. Change mat - depends but I still use one with my 3yo as he isn't potty trained yet. If I'm just changing clothes I'll do that wherever though - it's only if the nappy is coming off that I put him on the mat.

I never understand why people are so keen to see coming out of the cot as a development thing - keep them in as long as they stay there!

High chair really depends on what works for you/your house - we eat together at a big table so the trip trapp works for us, other people I know use a small children's table and chairs. I think many kids aren't comfortable in a normal chair for a while but depends obviously on their height etc

DD was out of her cot at around 2.5, stopped using her high chair around the same age (both of these tied to her little brother being old enough to need the cot and high chair). I never used a changing mat and she's potty trained recently at just before 3 years old.

Cot: the day after they climb out of it.

Highchair: when they can reach the table without it. DS1 must have come out about 2.5, because his bother needed it, but had a booster seat for years afterwards.

Dressed- in bedroom as soon as they could walk. Don't see a problem with a changing mat, just we had a tiny bathroom, which was where the changing mat was squashed.

To be honest it all comes down to safety. Moved DS out of the cot when he tried to climb out of it - 2.5 I think? Moved him out of the high chair when he tried to climb out of it (similar age). We have one of those ones that converts from a high chair to a high child's chair, and he's still in that at nearly 4.

We still help him dress at nearly 4, and where that happens is entirely a matter of convenience for everyone involved!

Different for everyone! My 3.5 year old just moved out of her cotbed, she'd never tried to climb out but we took the side off when she turned 3. Her brother moved out of the cotbed at a similar age, had the side off from 3. 3.5 year old loves a high chair in restaurants as she loves the attention of being a "baby" but has a stokke chair at home and hasn't had the high chair attachment bit since she was 2. Got rid of the change mat when she was out of night nappies.
Do what works for you, with the caveat of safety first obvs.

They develop so differently. The longer you can leave them in a cot, the better to be honest but so many are climbers and take that decision themselves. I think one of mine had the bars up closer to 3, one had them down well before 2. In terms of changing, do what is easiest for you. High chair will again depend on how sturdy your high chair is and how compliant and tall your child is.