I've lost my oomph & energy

[chubster101]

I'm mid 40's, I work around 60 hours a week, DC, DH, house to run, finances to manage, bills to pay.

Lately, I have zero energy or motivation. CBA to go out, let alone get ready for a night out. I roll out of bed around 9am on a weekend day. I always seem to have so much to do indoors that its never-ending.

My friend is 52 also with DC, job and house to run etc. She is bouncing off the walls at 6am most days - weekends too - and seems to have loads of time on her hands despite also having DC, work and a house to run. I wish I could be more like her.
E.g. I do a few jobs indoors on a sunday then pop to see my elderly parents (who lives 20 mins away) and the day is all but gone. Friend will have been here, there & everywhere and still have time to cook a roast on a sunday night, type of thing.

I want time for ME, time to go to the gym & see friends more

I also recognise that I maybe strive too much for the perfect house, which could attribute to eating up all my time,. I make sure that we never run out of anything, the house is always spotless, clean & tidy. Every drawer/corner/cupboard is tidy, my towels are folded in a very neat and tidy stack & arranged like something out of a hotel, everything has a place and everything is in it's place.

How do I get my energy back ? am I peri-menopausal ? should I lower my standards at home and just have one day where I clean/tidy etc ?

See your GP for bloods and meanwhile take the time for yourself. I am sure your dh and dc don't notice how neatly the teatowels are folded.

Take the time for yourself before age/illness/ the grim reaper takes it for you

Might be a time of year thing. I could happily hibernate and not bother to do anything in Dec / Jan / Feb. Summer I am a completely different person. Worth getting your bloods done incase a lack of iron or something.

Question: When you look back at your life, do you want your main takeaway to be 'At least I kept everything tidy...'

Relax your standards because as long as you don't live in a dangerous pigsty, it doesn't matter.

Take the time you want and do not feel bad about it. It just sounds like you need stuff to look forward to to give you a REASON to get out the house perhaps? x

See your GP for bloods I second this, and while you are waiting take a good multi vitamin and mineral supplement. Iron, B complex, magnesium, zinc and D.

I used to be you Op.
I woke up one day and thought ‘fuck this’ I am existing not living.
I started taking vitamins , eating healthier and cut down my hours at work .
I also got the kids involved in tidying clearing up. I like a clean house, but refuse to spend the whole weekend cleaning up
You see your parents every week, could you reduce that to every other week and instead speak to them on the phone ?

I honestly don't know

Posted too soon! I honestly don't know how anyone manages 60 hours work per week. No wonder you're worn out.

That's all I have to say. It's surely too many hours?

I'm shattered just reading about your life.
You work 60 hours?
And you keep your house spotless with towels folded 'just so'?

Make a list of some things you'd get real pleasure from doing: seeing friends, going to a gym class, having a day out as a family etc, and then decide that lower household standards and a happy, rested you are way more important than Kondo-ed towels!