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I'm really worried today :(

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herbaltea21 · 13/12/2022 06:53

My mum had breast cancer about 8 years ago. She had her treatment and has been fine since. She does have a lot of historical cysts which have been monitored without any recent change in her mammograms.
She had a mammogram about 6 weeks ago now. This time round her anxiety was sky high as she had a "feeling@. It room them 5 weeks to respond to her telling her an irregularity had shown and her appointment was on x date. Due to Royal Mail strikes she received the letter with the app the day after her appointment so she has had to wait a further week for a new appointment which is today.
She spoke to a consultant who said "whilst nothing is screaming out from the original mammogram there is a new mass/irregularity from last time".
My mum is beside herself. I only talk to my mym about things, single mum etc. I can't talk to her about this as I don't want to add to her worry.
I can just hear her telling me that it's cancer. I can literally hear the words right now. I just can't enter the cancer world again.
One of my close friends died from breast cancer age 36 earlier this year after a 2 year battle.
I feel so overwhelmed and suffocated and worried about my mum. I just want to run away 😢

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girlmom21 · 13/12/2022 06:59

We're here OP. Whatever happens today your moms going to need you to be strong, so if you need to scream and shout and cry do it here with us.

Hopefully, if it's cancer, they've caught it early. She might need treatment or surgery but try and focus on facts for her because she might not be ready to hear them.

Are you going to the appointment with her? Flowers

RambamThankyouMam · 13/12/2022 06:59

Oh gosh your poor mum, and poor you. It's useless to say don't worry, so I'll just offer a hand-hold.

Y7drama · 13/12/2022 07:00

I hope all goes well. Hopefully anything sinister has been caught early.

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dontknowwhatisbest · 13/12/2022 07:02

I'm sorry to hear that OP. For what it's worth my mum has had beast cancer three separate times over the past 20 years and has been successfully treated every time.

NightOwl101 · 13/12/2022 07:06

Crossing everything you and your DM get good news today

herbaltea21 · 13/12/2022 07:11

Thank you all.
I just feel like the more and more I think about it the more likely that it will be ok. She's already had cancer so what if it's come back?
I just want to today to be over 😢

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SendARavenToRiverRun · 13/12/2022 07:13

Oh love. I'll be thinking of you and your mum today. Take care xx

Soproudoflionesses · 13/12/2022 07:15

I have to take my mum for PET scan today as she was diagnosed with cancer last week op so l am right here with you too xxx

MrsWhites · 13/12/2022 07:16

I’ve been where you are, my mum has had breast cancer and a few years back got a call back from a mammogram, in her case it was a cyst so don’t lose hope.

I really hope it’s ok for your mum x

Maybepossibly22 · 13/12/2022 07:18

My dad has cancer and is going to the oncologist today, so I completely understand your anxiety. Holding your hand in support and keeping my fingers firmly crossed that your mum gets good news today Flowers

NooNakedJacuzziness · 13/12/2022 07:19

I know the awful feelings of dread/fear when you're waiting for results of a loved one OP (I'm sure we all do). Hoping you get good news Flowers

Amybelle88 · 13/12/2022 07:21

Ive had cancer so I know how horrific the anxiety is.

Just sending you so much empathy and support. If nothing is screaming out from the original mammogram the first thing I'd think is "well if it is cancer, it's small and contained", however could be nothing but a cyst.

Stay strong, OP, you both have this xxx

herbaltea21 · 13/12/2022 12:15

Thanks all for the messages this morning. I really needed to chat and just get that off my chest.
I've seen a really rubbish side of Mumsnet on other peoples posts recently, the kindness shown this morning really ment so much ♥️
After an extremely long morning my mum rang and they said that there is a new cluster of cysts - lots and lots of cysts. Nothing cancerous.
I can't put into words the tele of. We just never know what's around the corner but right now she's ok. I can't explain the relief and gratitude right now.
Thoughts are truly with those who have posted they're having a rubbish time, I really hope that things improve ♥️

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SquigglePigs · 13/12/2022 12:17

I'm so pleased it was good news for you and your Mum OP.

SeaGlassShining · 13/12/2022 12:18

Wonderful news for your Mum OP, really pleased for you xx

Nongatron · 13/12/2022 12:19

Hooray so happy for you and your mum that it’s good news 😊

MrsWhites · 13/12/2022 12:22

So pleased to hear that, what a relief for you all x

girlmom21 · 13/12/2022 12:24

Oh that's fantastic news OP! Have a wonderful Christmas!

Onebrokentoe · 13/12/2022 12:25

I was so worried for your mum and you reading this thread, and so relieved to see your update. I know how awful the waiting is. Great news OP.

RampantIvy · 13/12/2022 12:40

I'm pleased your mum is OK. I'm less pleased that the hospital is using such an unreliable method of contact these days, given the uncertainty of our postal system at the moment.

DH was on the 2 week cancer pathway recently, and all contact has been by phone and texts which have supplied links that opened letters to confirm his appointments.

NightOwl101 · 13/12/2022 14:11

That's great news OP

NooNakedJacuzziness · 13/12/2022 15:50

Great news - relax and enjoy your Christmas x

herbaltea21 · 13/12/2022 19:20

Thank you so much all ♥️

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