Beloved item probably lost by DSis... Totally gutted. Please help me feel better.

[GeoffWode]

I lent my sis a beautiful Toddlerhawk (baby-carrier for toddlers) a few years ago. I have so many lovely memories attached to it, and was very clear that I wanted it back when she was finished. I imagined passing it on to my kids if they ever have babies. Anyway, her little ones are all too big for it now, so I've asked for it back. She's lent it to someone and doesn't know if she can get it back. She's making noises about getting in touch with them and/or looking through boxes in her house, but reading between the lines I'm pretty sure she knows it's gone.

I'm so bloody sad and annoyed about this. I've kept very few mementos from my kids' early years, and this was something I cherished. I made this all clear when I lent it to her.

I feel like an idiot for trusting her to keep it and return it.

Who did she lend it to? Can she even remember?

I didn't ask for it sooner as get youngest is only just at the age that it probably isn't useful anymore.

Her messages suggest that she remembers who she lent it to, but she's also talking about looking through her own stuff to try and find it. I'm guessing she's had a clear out at some point and just got rid of it. I think it's unlikely that she ruined it as it's not very ruinable, and she wouldn't have sold it as she doesn't need the money.

I totally get it. I had a custom Babyhawk and it was a thing of beauty with great memories (and pretty expensive with import fees!). I lent it to a friend who had a non-put-downable baby. She gave it back when I asked a year or so down the road, which was great.

But I then gave it away to one of the Calais Aid charities when they were looking for baby items for refugees. I felt good at the time, until my DH pointed out the people who sort out the donations would probably have no idea what it was and throw it into the fabric recycling pile! I wish I hadn't given it away, I'd love to have it put away now. I do however still have my Peanut Shell fleecy sling, which has all the newborn memories....

I hope your sister does come up trumps, though it sounds like she's just lost track of it. Very thoughtless.

Ah legodout, I'm sorry you're missing your one! I think there's a good chance someone would have recognised what it was though, if that makes it any less of a loss.

I'm sorry for all PPs who have lost precious things. It's funny how attached you can get to an inanimate object.

I’d be asking her to start going through those boxes and texting her mate or whoever she lent it to.

I have to say, the one thing about this being your sister and not a mate is that you can let rip with how annoyed with her you are. Don't mince your words.

@TerraNostra you'd think so, but we don't really have that sort of relationship, which I guess is a bit sad!