(lighthearted) WTH is it with cake and the olde generation ?

[Polkadotpjs]

Just had my son's birthday lunch and my sister brought the cake with her - she'd made him one - a chocolate fudge cake type, small shop bought size (relevant ). From the second the candles were lit the cake sharks were out. Some wanted some now as dessert but then it starts.. "could I just have some to take home?" " What about BIL?" And his wife ?". Then the PIL who've already had some, request some more to take home. My DS who loves cake and for whom this has supposedly been made has a small wedge left which is enough for one slice each for him and his brother. Me and DH haven't had any. I'm not bothered but would be nice to have the option. They are the same every birthday! I need a stunt cake I think. Does anyone else have this obsession with taking away of cake? At our wedding MIL bought another (fruit ) cake in addition to our (chocolate ) wedding cake so she could cut up and distribute fruit cake to all and sundry (guests or not). Obsessed I tell you ! In fact I'm going to Tesco now to buy him a new cake before it shuts so he can have that all to himself if he desires ! My generation (late 40s) are not at all bothered - at least my circle of friends don't seem to be 😬😂. I didn't post in AIBU because I want to see generally what is cake etiquette elsewhere. Mind you if she ever made a wedding cake I can imagine her swiping it back from the happy couple and that would be worthy of AIBU 😂😂

I think it’s a your in-laws thing not a generational thing; I don’t know anyone who’d behave like this. So rude and your poor DS!

But weren’t you in charge of cutting the cake? So first slice to the birthday boy, then to small expectant children, and so on round the group in order of who’s most likely to kick off.

I second StickofVeg idea.

I wouldnt be so subtle as some of these suggestions. When they start to swoop next simply say "NO! We are not doing that anymore as on X's birthday everyone was so greedy that he hardly got any of his own birthday cake. I will cut everyone a slice and if there is any left then the birthday boy can have another slice tomorrow or share it with his friends" and MEAN IT.

And yes they will take huffing and puffing umridge but frankly anyone who would leave a small boy upset as he barely got a taste of his own birthday cake because of their greed, needs a fucking rocket up their arse! As his parents, it is you and your husbands job to give it to them.

Oh and make sure you provide the cake as then you dont get the "But we bought the cake so....." arguments thrown back.

We worked out a bag of sugar 100 years ago would be about £50 in todays prices - so quite something to be offered cake.

My Nan would do this, it’s a ‘treat’ to eat cake!!

Im not so bothered.

John next door to my gran has had a fair slice of every celebratory the family have had in the last 10 years. I've seen him twice...

I'm the size of a house and I would have said that even before I was diagnosed celiac. I'm just not a cake or sweets person.

I think behaviour like that is more a thing where people either go a bit silly around the stuff because they like it but don't feel they can eat it regularly/feel deprived and now have an 'excuse' to indulge, or because they are so sugar oriented that they lose any sense of regulation (or common decency in this case).

I can update to say he's had a Curly (cousin to Cuthbert and Colin, sadly estranged because of familial rivalries ) and has enjoyed every slice he's had and there's STILL some left. I'm making the cake next year and will offer EITHER a slice as dessert OR a take home piece and no more. Not having it. Greedy people.