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Feeling violated

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ChristmasKoala · 10/12/2022 13:15

Changed username as I don't want previous threads linking, long time poster, etc.

This week we found out DPs ex girlfriend has been logging into his fb account and reading our messages. We only found out as she accidentally slipped up and posted a picture of her and her baby on DPs profile. DP checked his fb account and she's been logging in literally hundreds of times going back as far as the records show! They split up 3 years ago! It's obsessive behaviour. She supposedly settled with someone else and they have a baby together.

She's had access to so much private information. I don't post photos of my own children online due to domestic violence and threats to our safety from their father/my ex husband but from our conversations she can see what school my dc go to, where we live, where I work. There's conversations I've had discussing my own depression and talking about when I was raped. All of this was meant to be private!

DP has phoned the Police but they won't do anything other than try phone her to say a complaint has been made. The exs current dp has previously threatened to turn up at my house and hurt dp when the ex was trying to reduce contact with DPs son and do wouldn't agree. He threatens dp when he picks up his child, the Police just say to record pick ups. I'm so worried that dp will be hurt and that my dc will witness violence if he turns up here. I'm so disappointed that the police won't take this seriously, I want my personal conversations and photos removing from her devices and I want dp to be safe.

Sorry its turned into a long post and thank you for reading so far.

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tectonicplates · 10/12/2022 13:17

Why was she able to log in in the first place? I hope he's at least changed his password now.

ChristmasKoala · 10/12/2022 13:20

We think it must have been going on from when they were together,otherwise I'm not sure how she would have logged in.

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ChristmasKoala · 10/12/2022 13:22

He's changed his password now, it was such an obvious one 🙄

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tectonicplates · 10/12/2022 13:36

I would strongly suggest that he changes some passwords on other stuff too like email, online banking, other social media etc.

ChristmasKoala · 10/12/2022 13:41

tectonicplates · 10/12/2022 13:36

I would strongly suggest that he changes some passwords on other stuff too like email, online banking, other social media etc.

Thank you. He's changed all his passwords. He's rechecked his fb account and his phone is now the only one logged in.

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