Am I losing the plot?

[Shallysally]

So last week I got a notification from Royal Mail saying my parcel had been delivered. I was at home, the postie hadn’t knocked. I checked round outside, asked both neighbours, nothing. Parcel was perfume for DD.

I’ve been to the sorting office and reported it as not being delivered.

Tonight I wrap some Christmas gifts and there in a box of DD’s gifts is the perfume. Not in the delivery packaging, so I must have taken it out of the packaging and put it away.

I have absolutely no recollection of this. How on earth have I forgotten? Not just forgotten, but actually been to the sorting office, manager has spoken to the postie.

I’m actually worried this has happened. I know I’m menopause and a bit stressed but still it’s still concerning, is it not?

Honestly, happens to me all the time. It’s pretty much a standing joke here. It tends to be because I’ve been busy, running around doing things, on and off calls for work, and I’ve done something quick and mundane while waiting for the kettle to boil and before rushing back to a zoom call (like grabbing a delivery, unwrapping it and putting it away) and immediately forgotten.

Sounds like you were on auto pilot and immediately forgot. Pretty normal if you're massively busy.

Hi Shally I feel your pain. I'm menopausal and have Long Covid memory loss. It's horrendous. I'm about to lose my partner of 9 years because he can't handle the changes I've been through. I lost my long term job in the first Covid and I am on ESA. I have retired from my full time job with a very well paid organisation. I had no option.

My life has been completely turned upside down. I've given up alcohol because there's no way I can damage my brain any further. I'm walking briskly every day and I have just started yoga. I hope to do at least 2 sessions a week. I'm eating extremely healthily

I've been mourning my old life but it's really time that I accept what I've lost. I'm fortunate that I managed to keep my home by the skin of my teeth. I know that people are losing their homes and that is horrific.

I'm annoyed with my partner's attitude because despite me explaining how horrendous it is trying to cope with memory loss he gets annoyed when I stumble over words or forget words, names, lose the thread of a conversation. It's extremely hurtful.

It's highly likely that he is going to end our relationship very soon. I'm sick of feeling rushed around by him when I stumble. I'm very close to telling him I'm leaving him.

I honestly cannot cope with his criticisms anymore.

I think it will be a relief. The sad thing is that I really love him and I will miss him very badly. I feel physical pain at the thought of losing him but he wont move out of his mindset.

@LakeIsle48 that sounds awful. You poor thing! Could you suggest counselling to your partner, if you really think he is worth keeping?

Although I have to say, from what you have said, it sounds like you might be better off without him. Sometimes in a breakup we mourn the person we though we were with, even when it turns out that they never really were that person.

@LakeIsle48 I’m so sorry that your partner is treating you like this.
If he is having a big impact on your mental well-being then maybe you would be better if you weren’t with him.

Are you getting any mental health support with your memory issues?