DH is pissed off with me tonight for being critical. One was about him putting dirty clothes back in drawers to be reworn (in his view they were clean enough) and the other was me complaining that he doesn’t keep his eye on the pup when he’s watching the football and he pees on the floor. He’s nearly potty trained and it’s always on DH watch there’s a lapse, frustrates me that I feel I have to be on it but he seems to think he doesn’t. Day to day dross really, overall very happy relationship where we both work hard and share the load.
He claims that it isn’t the criticism that’s the problem, it’s how I deliver it, get a bit het up etc. I’m just reflecting, I think he has a point, I wish I could just deliver it more straightforwardly. I think certain issues push my buttons, like the clothes thing, I’ve told him before on this and he continues to do it so I feel disrespected (some
of the clothes are really rank, I’m honestly not a clean freak). So I think I have a point too, some criticism is warranted and he’s expecting saintly perfection for me to always deliver this feedback in a calm and non frustrated manner.
How do you talk about these kind of minor irritations with your partner day to day?