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Step son

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Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 11:00

He’s 8 ans told me hw doesn’t like me as he loves his mum. I’ve always been kind and included him and try to have him bond with our two year old, when we are alone he tells me hw wants his mum and dad back got her (they was one when they split up) he tells us he hates his step because he wants to share his mums bed again. He cries a lot and lately he’s been talking about sex making noises and saying his mums name whist making these noises he even told us he imagines his mum having sex, his dad just doesn’t say anything so I kind of leave it because last time i said it’s not right it caused a argument.

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Lastqueenofscotland2 · 09/12/2022 11:05

The first bit of this is just normal. Step parents/Step families are hard for kids.
The last bit is insanely concerning and I’d be talking to social services

OwwwMuuuum · 09/12/2022 11:06

He sounds really muddled (as does your OP). it’s difficult to understand what you mean but the child seems to need more support.

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Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 11:06

I don’t see him often as his mum really for some reason does not like me. I think his dads worried incase she starts flying of the handle

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Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 11:08

I’ve told him and his mum they say he hangs around with his mums friends older kids but to me its not right

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mondaytosunday · 09/12/2022 11:55

This is for your husband/boys mum to sort out. He needs to have a proper father son talk.

iklboo · 09/12/2022 11:58

Speak to social services.

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Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 11:59

mondaytosunday · 09/12/2022 11:55

This is for your husband/boys mum to sort out. He needs to have a proper father son talk.

@mondaytosunday at the min I’m afraid her head is else where she’s always got to have a man she’s on her third this year

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TheSandgroper · 09/12/2022 11:59

Bugger the boy’s father and mother and leaving them to it. That child is 8 years old! Wtf is he knowing about sex and it’s noises etc?

It will cause you huge grief, OP, but I think you need to be the adult here and look for outside resources. Something is very much not right.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/12/2022 12:03

I'd be calling SS and getting out of this situation/relationship entirely. Your partner is a shit dad.

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Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 12:05

TheSandgroper · 09/12/2022 11:59

Bugger the boy’s father and mother and leaving them to it. That child is 8 years old! Wtf is he knowing about sex and it’s noises etc?

It will cause you huge grief, OP, but I think you need to be the adult here and look for outside resources. Something is very much not right.

@TheSandgroper I’ve thought about it and his mum says it’s the internet? Which wouldn’t surprise me. His mums got a different man around a lot my son never did this and it really is concerning me

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Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 12:07

Aquamarine1029 · 09/12/2022 12:03

I'd be calling SS and getting out of this situation/relationship entirely. Your partner is a shit dad.

That’s for another time the relationship isn’t the best and I often think if I end things Il be away from all of it

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BobbyBobbyBobby · 09/12/2022 12:08

Ineffective and useless dollop of a husband/father and a poor child caught in the midst of him and his wife who according to you is free and easy with her charms.

Ans the poor boy is dealing with a step brother his dad has with another woman.

I would be seeking ways to remove yourself from this situation as best you can. I feel sorry for the little boy and your son in this horrible mess.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/12/2022 12:08

Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 12:07

That’s for another time the relationship isn’t the best and I often think if I end things Il be away from all of it

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Then stop wasting your time, call SS and get the hell out of there. Whatever you do, don't burden another child with him as their father.

Aquamarine1029 · 09/12/2022 12:10

Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 11:06

I don’t see him often as his mum really for some reason does not like me. I think his dads worried incase she starts flying of the handle

No, your partner just can't be bothered.

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Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 12:10

BobbyBobbyBobby · 09/12/2022 12:08

Ineffective and useless dollop of a husband/father and a poor child caught in the midst of him and his wife who according to you is free and easy with her charms.

Ans the poor boy is dealing with a step brother his dad has with another woman.

I would be seeking ways to remove yourself from this situation as best you can. I feel sorry for the little boy and your son in this horrible mess.

It’s a girl I have, i only see him once a month because his mum and her mother. He’s very old headed, to be honest I dread it because of what he will come out with

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BobbyBobbyBobby · 09/12/2022 12:11

I would also consider the safety of your child as the eight year old may have been exposed to sexual goings on which may cause him emotional/mental problems that could manifest in him harming your child.

Perhaps not a danger now but could be in the future.

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Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 12:12

BobbyBobbyBobby · 09/12/2022 12:11

I would also consider the safety of your child as the eight year old may have been exposed to sexual goings on which may cause him emotional/mental problems that could manifest in him harming your child.

Perhaps not a danger now but could be in the future.

@BobbyBobbyBobby ive thought of this and to be honest I do feel a though I want away from the relationship and the bad in it.

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Aquamarine1029 · 09/12/2022 12:18

Nancienoo · 09/12/2022 12:12

@BobbyBobbyBobby ive thought of this and to be honest I do feel a though I want away from the relationship and the bad in it.

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Then do something about it. Protect your child from this toxic nightmare.

purpleboy · 09/12/2022 13:10

BobbyBobbyBobby · 09/12/2022 12:11

I would also consider the safety of your child as the eight year old may have been exposed to sexual goings on which may cause him emotional/mental problems that could manifest in him harming your child.

Perhaps not a danger now but could be in the future.

Absolutely this!

These is so much wrong right now and your ignoring it all.

The son sounds troubled, he is obviously at the least hearing his mum having sex, at worst do I need to say it?

His father is useless and won't protect him, get rid!

Your child need to be protected, by YOU

whattodo2019 · 10/12/2022 01:02

Could all four adults sit down and have a chat?

TheSandgroper · 10/12/2022 06:04

#Nancienoo. I’ve been reading it all again.

Your gut is screaming at you loudly and it is time to trust it. There are thousands of comments throughout Mumsnet about not trusting your gut and the shitshow that follows.

Your gut wants you to take your own child and get out. Follow your gut.

TheSandgroper · 10/12/2022 06:04

@Nancienoo , that is.

Redredwinest · 10/12/2022 07:43

TheSandgroper · 10/12/2022 06:04

@Nancienoo , that is.

@TheSandgroper i decided to end things it’s not been a good relationship I’ve suffered at the hands by abuse by him for years and feel very overwhelmed with all this With his son. I really want out

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