Really not feeling Christmas this year

[Onefootinthegroove]

Lost my DDad at the start of the year, thought I was doing ok, now realized that I could happily skip Christmas altogether. I wont because of the rest of the family but it's going to be hard.
Anyone else just not feeling it this year?

Yep same situation really lost my
lovely dad end of Sept and it still hasn’t really hit me. We are having mam here for Christmas Eve and lunch and rest of family joining for tea and then on the 27th we are all heading off for a few days to a cottage as it’s our 10th anniversary - I really can’t muster enthusiasm about anything.

@mrsbyers Its bloody difficult isnt it ? DH did the decorations while I was at work because I just couldn't.

This may be my last Christmas with my lovely Dad, and I really cannot be arsed with it. How can we pretend to have a wonderfully joyous day when we all know whats coming?

Completely understand, I lost DH earlier this year and last Christmas was awful because of how sick he was.

@Itsvalentino @bloodywhitecat @mrsbyers
💐

Similar situation here. I lost my Mom last month so it’ll be a strange one without her.
I don’t think that’s the reason why I can’t summon up any enthusiasm though, I think it’s more to do with the fact that I spend every Christmas making sure that everyone else has a good time, nice presents etc and it’s become a chore.

The last two years it’s just been the four of us which has been easier but I’ve now got my Dad coming (who is 89 and fussy) and my sister and brother in law too (because I felt obliged to ask them, she’s a lot older than me and we’ve got nothing in common apart from having the same parents).

I honestly wish we could just go away and do Christmas abroad, but that’d mean leaving our adored old dog.

I lost my mum and dad a few years back and still can't face celebrating Xmas. really takes the joy out of it, I feel for you OP x

I lost my lovely mum a few months before Christmas last year. I took all the pressure off and just did things that I wanted to do. So me and mum loved a mulled wine, I carved out time to sit and enjoy a mulled wine with the stupid Christmas songs on that she liked. Terribly sad but soothing too. It gets easier to carry, but it doesn't get better. I miss her more than I can say, and this year I've just had a baby and wish so much she could meet him.

Same here. We moved house last week and although this place is lovely it just doesn't feel like home yet. We are planning to put the tree and decorations up this weekend but I can't face it. I know As soon as we get them all out I'll be hit with a thousand memories of Christmases in our old home and I'll have the emotional breakdown I've been trying to avoid for days. I feel so ... lost.

Our DC are adult and we only have 1 of them with is for Christmas, I know I can slap a smile on my face for their sake but I just feel completely emotionally detached from it this year.
DH has been wonderful , we lost DMIL nearly 10 years ago so he understands.

💐 for everyone who has lost a loved one/having a hard time.
My reasons for not feeling it are pretty much the same as others, the cost of living, general state of the world at the moment ect. It all seems rather bleak.
I was just hoping for a relaxing time off work as broke up for half term today but now I've been struck down with some horrible bug (not covid) and feel so ill.
Merry fucking Christmas ay?

What a awful year its been. We lost Mum in May, I had close to a nervous breakdown in October, Dad's with us for Christmas and now we've got COVID. I'm not feeling it either!

I’m in the same position as you OP - and and have been feeling much the same . It’s not easy , you are not alone

Exactly how I feel. Lost my Dad suddenly in October- he was only 61, I am 28. Christmas can come and go like any other day as far as I'm concerned, all of the magic /festivities /family time is now too difficult

I haven't put decorations or the tree up this year. I've still got presents to buy and wrap. Haven't even written all the family cards - some I haven't even bought yet!

It's 17th December and the tree/decs are still in the attic. I can't muster up any enthusiasm for it at all, feels like so much effort just for a few days. Ds 19 is hardly ever around with work/life, so honestly don't think I'll bother. We'll still have presents and dinner though.