Should I buy my daughter and my niece the same gifts for Xmas day?

[DistressedLady]

Hi all,

Both girls are 4 years old and will be spending Xmas day together. I don’t know the etiquette when buying for cousins the same age…. should I buy both daughter and niece the same/ similar gifts so as to treat them equally and so it doesn’t appear there’s a huge discrepancy in presents we give to our niece and our daughter.

Also we’re travelling a long way to spend Xmas day at my sister’s house… while my niece will open all her Xmas gifts on the day at home, we won’t be able to take all my daughter’s Xmas presents across in the car.

I don’t want my daughter feeling sad that her cousin has way more presents than her (even if I tell her the rest of her gifts are at home waiting for her, she’s too young to find appear there’s a huge discrepancy in presents we give to our niece and our daughter that thought comforting when she sees her cousin ripping open all her gifts on the day)

Totally appreciate it’s a first world problem but I’d appreciate any advice/ suggestions. And I totally get the sentiments of its not the quantity which matters but the quality - am just trying to put myself into my daughter’s shoes to see things from her perspective at this young age.

Thanks so much everyone for sharing your thoughts. It’s clear I need to 1) take all her presents with us 2) buy appropriately for my niece - her parents will buy for her

And, another thing, she’ll be off nursery for 2 weeks (all of which we’ll be away for at relatives’ homes) so it’s her chance to enjoy all her toys to the max in this time..,

We travel to Ireland every other year. We do not take everything under the tree, we leave the family presents until we get back. We do take everything else though, so all the Santa stuff, the stockings, the present from us. It is annoying, but needs must. Then we have to cart it all back, along with all the gifts we pick up over there!