Nobody responded to my messages on LinkedIn- now I'm embarrassed

[wheniwasayounger]

I'm starting a new job in January and thought it would be a nice idea to send a little "hello (person) hope you're keeping well, looking forward to getting started and meeting the team in January" that kinda msg sorta half expecting a reply of some sort but instead radio silence from the two people, I'm now really embarrassed and a bit miffed as to why they wouldn't acknowledge me.

My husband just thinks I'm over thinking it all but it's making me feel a bit unwelcome and nervous (as silly as it seems) the message was last week so plenty of time for a reply

What's your thoughts ? Why wouldn't two people not even say a basic "hi" back to me ?

From one overthinker to another; you're overthinking this.

It's likely that they haven't read it. The majority of messages I get on LinkedIn are spammy (as I'm sure most people's are), so when an email pops up to say I have a new message I very rarely read them.

Or they might have read it but not thought it warrants a reply, especially if you're starting next month.

Either way what's done is done, just think of it as a friendly gesture and don't let it cloud what should be the start of an exciting new chapter.

Yeah don't worry OP. The main point is you did nothing wrong by messaging. It was polite. Don't know why other posters are being weird about it. But definitely don't overthink it. You did your bit.

You’re overthinking this. You sent a friendly hello. They clicked your name; connected with you; got distracted by something else.

Nothing at all to be concerned or worried about. Promise.

I ignore all LinkedIn messages because the vast majority of them are spam. Bless you though for making the effort!

I agree with not worrying about this. I tend to only really log into LinkedIn to look up people or when I am job searching. I get a lot of recruiter messages or LinkedIn advertising messages, so if I'm happy with where I am working I don't log in really at all and can't be bothered to reply back to them all.

I suspect they looked you up and haven't been back in. It likely means they are happy and not job hunting so that's a positive.

I missed msgs from good friends on linked for months because I just don’t check it

Did you send a message along with the connection request?
Then they accepted the connection?
In that case - I always forget to respond to those as I just go and accept the request and then think oh I'll message back later.

Don't be embarrassed at all. It's a really nice thing to do. Not everyone uses LinkedIn but if I got a message from someone joining in the future I'd think it was nice of them! But I have to admit I'm terrible at replying especially when they go alongside connection requests!

OP I don’t think it’s weird you messaged them. We have someone new joining our team soon and I messaged her on LinkedIn to say hi. Also I disagree with the earlier poster who said that because you’re in your 30s you can’t say “lol”…. Wtf?

This was my thought too. But I don’t use linked in either

Neither do I. I can only see the point if you are looking for a job. The thought of "connecting" or even worse "reaching out" with people I might have dealt with through work is so cringe.

I might use linked in briefly if I Google someone and their profile comes up, but I don't think I have used the messaging function in over a decade - who knows what's waiting in there for me. Maybe one day I will get curious and have a look. I think you are over thinking this.

I literally haven't looked at my LinkedIn since the last time I changed jobs 6 years ago! I wouldn't think on it any more lol. If they had read the message I'm sure they would have replied - It's a perfectly pleasant, normal thing you have done. Is easy to overthink / overworry when you have a new job starting though. I'm sure it will be fine when you are there.

I have it muted, everything goes to my spam. If I don't log in specifically to do something, I wouldn't have a clue anyone had messaged me. They probably haven't seen it.

If they use 0365 at work the outlook app automatically looks up linked up profiles for a contact if you've linked outlook to LinkedIn. We've done it at work so the Business Development/Sales/marketing folk can more easily connect.

It may be that when they sent you an email it found your linked in from your email address.