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I feel utterly miserable about the state of everything. Anyone else?

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nellyelloe · 07/12/2022 15:58

As I sit in my freezing cold home, about to try and pay my monthly £300 energy bill (heating on a few hours a day), after spending £140 on a shop that was £100 not long ago, and waiting for 18 months and counting now for a pain management referral and an operation, I am beyond miserable. I work full time in a professional position, but there's no joy from payday anymore, as it's instantly swallowed up.

I just feel total despair at how miserable everything is right now, and would kill for 2019 back Sad

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SarahShorty · 09/12/2022 12:03

Yep. Economically it's the 1970s all over again. It all feels premeditated, too.

IAmIngrid · 09/12/2022 12:07

I hear you, OP. I think that being cold lowers your tolerance for anything else, other troubles. It makes everything harder.

We're the same, sitting in a cold house with so much more money going on basics like food and fuel.

I know it's not much help and not advice for anyone to do the same but I had a huge bereavement at the beginning of the year and was struggling to cope with other things so have started antidepressants. They're helping me get by.

Soothsayer1 · 09/12/2022 12:16

Leemoe · 07/12/2022 18:54

Well, variously; high fashion- see the Balenciaga scandal and the rather nefarious connections of those affiliated with the brand.

The 'Queer' Conringent of the LBTQ+ with their support of 'MAPs' thats 'minor attracted person' ie paedophiles to you and I.

Then there was the whole Prince Andrew and his connections to convicted paedophile and child trafficker, Jeffrey Epstein. Seemingly the media has ran with the vilification of the duchess of Sussex rather than lauch a proper media investigation in to Epstein/Maxwell et al. No, apparently Amber Heard and Johhny Depp's martial issues were more of a stain on society and therefore the media circus was oddly reserved for them.

It's not only one isolated incident, that would be more simple to realistically dismiss but it appears to be being insidiously, if not normalised then definitely given a sympathetic ear by certain groups and factions.

If you pay attention to it, it is worrying.

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I agree it's horrifying, men have always preferred women who are submissive
Now women have more power in society and are able to get high paying jobs they will no longer submit to men so men are going for children instead in order to secure someone who will be submissive and get the feeling of power and control that they want

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Soothsayer1 · 09/12/2022 12:18

SarahShorty · 09/12/2022 12:03

Yep. Economically it's the 1970s all over again. It all feels premeditated, too.

It might be but then again those in power are positioned such that they can exploit any crisis and turn it to their own advantage

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nellyelloe · 09/12/2022 14:46

SarahShorty · 09/12/2022 12:03

Yep. Economically it's the 1970s all over again. It all feels premeditated, too.

Yes it does Sad

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Deathraystare · 09/12/2022 15:42

I managed to get milk choccy digestives from the hospital shop (but CO-OP brand) for £1. I was very surprised as I thought it wold cost much more!

Smileandtheworldsmileswithyou · 09/12/2022 15:46

Needarest22 · 09/12/2022 06:05

@Smileandtheworldsmileswithyou can I ask where?

I live in Kuala Lumpur in Malaysia, I’m a teacher in an international school.

GreenLunchBox · 09/12/2022 16:22

Beanbagtrap · 08/12/2022 18:39

I wish there was something to look forward to.

A cold winter, food too expensive, no holiday next year due to costs rising in every aspect of life, NHS going under (by design), strikes, everyone I speak to is experiencing redundancies in their organisations, no election on the horizon to get the bastards out..

I suppose they think the king prancing about with a diamond crown on is going to cheer the nation up as we use the TV for warmth.

They do seem to show the royals on the news every day lately. It's making me like Hmm

HPFA · 09/12/2022 16:33

I think that's a very normal feeling at the moment - we're lucky enough that we can afford the heating but I'm still trying to keep it to the minimum necessary - it feels wrong to be wasteful about it when other people are suffering.

I honestly believe it's partly because maybe for the first time we have a government that actively cares nothing for the good of the country but is only interested in serving its own ideology. I was certainly no fan of Thatcher but she did at least have a belief that what she was doing was necessary for the good of the country. The current government is nothing like that - they're currently pushing through a bill on removing EU laws that not one business wants and everyone knows will be damage the economy further. Yet it's going through because of the obsessions of a few backbenchers.

We, as citizens, have just been abandoned.

Soothsayer1 · 09/12/2022 16:36

I can afford to heat my home ....if I use the savings built up for my retirement, I spose that's the way the gvt will force older people to go back to work?

CanadianJohn · 09/12/2022 18:25

I'm resentful of continual price increases... I think there is a lot of gouging going on.

My wife does the main shopping, I just pick up the extras. Cat food has gone up 50% this year, bird seed has gone up 35%.

It's not that we can't afford it so much that I feel cheated and taken advantage of.

YorkshireLondonMiss · 09/12/2022 18:42

Completely on the same page - I’m 32 and we were just starting to reach a point in our lives when we were finally feeling like we were getting established and now feeling like how we did when we first started working. Our rent renewal has gone up by £600 a month! Utterly depressing that it’s dead money but impossible to save for a house deposit. Hearing is yet to even go on, showering at work. We aren’t doing Christmas presents. Trying to just feel lucky for what we do have and enjoy having family to spend Christmas with, luckily in London there’s loads of free things to do so we have gotten inventive over the weekends. Don’t think rent will come down again now so I’m pushing myself to do extra bank work (nhs) and we are trying to consider next steps career wise to get a bit more income. We just keep reminding ourselves we are lucky to be able to afford to eat decent meals etc

I don’t understand why today the govt are looking at getting rid of some of the regulations on financial services…can we really afford to gamble our economy at this point?!

Greenfairydust · 09/12/2022 19:21

''@TheYearOfSmallThings · 07/12/2022 16:11
I have to say I don't feel that way, and if you are working full time in a professional job, I'm not clear why things are so difficult that you have to sit in a cold house?''

Oh FFS...

Most of us have noticed that there is a cost of living crisis.

A3285633 · 09/12/2022 19:42

I live in Kuala Lumpur in Malaysia, I’m a teacher in an international school.
Smileandtheworldsmileswithyou as you’re a teacher I’m sure you realise you don’t live in another European country….you actually live in South East Asia

LSSG · 09/12/2022 20:39

Soothsayer1 · 09/12/2022 16:36

I can afford to heat my home ....if I use the savings built up for my retirement, I spose that's the way the gvt will force older people to go back to work?

Yes, same story here. Blowing life savings on things I took for granted a few years ago.

Hawkins001 · 09/12/2022 20:45

I survived by trying to be positive each day, admittedly it was not always easy, but to me failure was not an option, one way or another I would rebuild my mind and my philosophy etc.

interstatelovesong · 09/12/2022 21:50

CanadianJohn · 09/12/2022 18:25

I'm resentful of continual price increases... I think there is a lot of gouging going on.

My wife does the main shopping, I just pick up the extras. Cat food has gone up 50% this year, bird seed has gone up 35%.

It's not that we can't afford it so much that I feel cheated and taken advantage of.

This 100 percent

Price gouging and bastard companies ripping us off cos they can

jtaeapa · 09/12/2022 22:00

SarahShorty · 09/12/2022 12:03

Yep. Economically it's the 1970s all over again. It all feels premeditated, too.

Premeditated? By Putin?

You may dislike those in power but I do not think anyone really wants people to be cold or hungry. Whilst politicians are often ignorant egotists and megalomaniacs, they generally aren’t sadists as well.

SingingSantaChristmas · 10/12/2022 02:53

Whilst politicians are often ignorant egotists and megalomaniacs, they generally aren’t sadists as well.

Did the whole Brexit "thing" pass you by?

Liorae · 10/12/2022 03:19

Paedophilia is being normalised.
Probably more media fearmongering.

Liorae · 10/12/2022 03:25

Babyroobs · 07/12/2022 17:26

Agree. I've just spent almost £20 for the ingredients to make one dinner this eveing ( nothing special ) for seven of us ( 4 adult kids plus one's gf who is living with us ). Car is in the garage and likely a massive bill, ds1's job not going well and he may quit, huge bill for spring term Uni accomodation for ds3 looming. I see nothing of my wages for myself. I'm even thinking of cancelling hair colour at the salon because it barely looks any different after paying £80. This is the one thing I spend on myself. Also struggling with the cold - I seem to have very poor circulation in my feet and they never get warm in fact they just hurt constantly when it's this cold.

Do the five other adults eating that dinner pay their way?

DigitalTranny · 10/12/2022 07:28

SingingSantaChristmas · 10/12/2022 02:53

Whilst politicians are often ignorant egotists and megalomaniacs, they generally aren’t sadists as well.

Did the whole Brexit "thing" pass you by?

Brexit was voted for my the public. By your fellow British citizens who are adults.

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