Just that really? I'm trying to understand what is a normal and acceptable amount of nagging for a child to put aside distractions and do their homework.
Back story: My husband insists that my son is nothing like me (I was diagnosed with ADHD at 40 after struggling my entire life). But it often takes a tedious amount of asking, pleading and begging for my son to sit down and focus on his homework. It can take a couple hours a night for him to get it all done because he's getting up and spinning around on the floor or dancing or just goofing around, running to the Alexa and playing with it or asking questions, looking at YouTube videos or playing games, or pestering his sister, etc.
One of the main issues is that all homework and communications between teachers and students are done on the school iPads. So often we'll think my son is actually working, but if I sneak up on him quick enough to look he'll actually be messing around on his iPad watching YouTube or playing games instead of doing his homework.
It's getting extremely tiresome and I suspect my son has adhd but my husband isn't having any of it. Yet he yells at my son and puts him down because he can't focus or concentrate and doesn't take things seriously. I get shot down every time I suggest my son may have adhd, but every night without fail arguments ensue between them and every time the issues my husband gets angry with - easily distracted, doesn't take things seriously, doesn't listen, doesn't pay attention, makes careless mistakes, isn't interested in the homework etc despite really enjoying school can all be attributed to ADHD. My husband insists that his behaviour is normal when I challenge him that it's adhd, and although I feel like I know for certain it is, he's gaslighting me almost insisting that it isn't and points out when my son does well in school that how could I say he has adhd blah blah blah and puts me down and calls me crazy basically.
Also on a side note, does anyone have experience or tips with students almost exclusively using iPads for their work? I can't take it away from him because he needs it for his school work. But if we didn't have it as a distraction Life would be so much easier. 