What would make you happy?

[Cuppasoupmonster]

If you’re not happy, what would change that? Just a curiosity thread…

Three years salary so I could not work the next three years and retire early.

But I'm basically happy now 🙂

To see my son one more time, even for just an hour. To hold his hand see his smile and ask him why.I lost him to suicide, will be 2 years on Christmas day, it's his 29th birthday on Friday. I miss him so much, every day I hope its my last, the pain is unbearable.

Justice.

This is so sad. I am metaphorically holding your hand. Please don't pray your life away, I am sure your son wouldn't want you to do that. He'd want you to live a full, rich, experienced life and then when you're reunited with each other he would want you to tell him all the stuff you got up to so he gets to hear it

Oh @Goldenboysmum 😞. How heartbreaking. Every mother's nightmare. And sadly not uncommon. I know of several young men who have committed suicide and in each case their family are left wondering 'why?'

Not to have had a stroke so I could still walk, talk and craft

To not be a widow but that can't happen, watching DH go through what he went through over the last two years will haunt me forever. It's been 10 months since he died, Christmas is going to be difficult this year.

If my eldest DD was happy then I’d be happy. She’s had a tough few years and been treated appallingly by now Ex fiancé. She’s the kindest, most loyal, loving girl ever and it breaks my heart to see her struggling.
It’s true what they say, you’re only as happy as your unhappiest child.

I would like my dad to get better, they've said his cancer is terminal, though since that diagnosis he's started chemo and it is responding, but we don't know what happens when the treatment ends 🤷 it's all very up in the air at the moment with only 2 more sessions left

I would like to be comfortable financially and get off UC, this is the aim once my youngest is in school and we can scale up our small business

I'd like to have the stones to launch my photography Facebook page, and I'd like it to do well and become a reasonable side hustle. I'm Facebook friends with a school mum who is a professional photographer though so I'm very nervous about taking it past hobbyist

Right now in the immediate future, I'd really like my boys to be over their colds in time for us to visit my parents on Friday

I was also pretty much happy until my child descended almost out of the blue into a MH crisis during lockdown. It is something I wouldn't wish on my worst enemy.

Their full recovery would make me happy but I'm not sure I'll ever fully relax again.

Standing with you @Goldenboysmum

Hi Ellis, even though you may not be able to talk now I can still read your words that you type, and I'm listening to you It's sad that a stroke took away some of your abilities but I am certain you remain still a marvellous human being

Same as bloodywhitecat, to have my DH alive again. He died 31 years ago, the day before my birthday, and a month before DD’s first birthday. I have never remarried or stopped grieving him. Every birthday and Christmas since his death has been a struggle to appear suitably festive for the children while concealing my grief.

Like @bloodywhitecat I'd love not to be a widow and now a lone parent. However, I am so thankful he is no longer in pain and distress. Fuck cancer.

My heart goes out to everyone on this thread especially those who have lost children xxxx

Also in the shitty widows club - same time frame as bloody white cat ……

Hugs to all fellow bereaved.

Saw my very frail elderly FIL today. If he makes it past Christmas I’ll be surprised.

Have hit the lowest point yet so far and if one more of my lovely friends (they truly are lovely and this is 100% my irrational issue) is nice to me I might just implode.

Everything just gets worse and worse and for all the storms I’ve weathered previously and come back, this one has no way out.

Time. More time to spend with family and friends, less time working.

To get rid of this bastard cancer and get my health back so I can be the parent my kids deserve.

also if my useless ex could possibly get crabs and suffer some sort of accident that makes him unable to scratch that would be great too

Not to have breast cancer or the benign tumor they found in my heart, so my kids didn't have to go through this.

A happy daughter.

Hi Goldensboysmum

Your pain is palpable. I'm so so sorry. I lost my precious boy nearly 5 years ago, forever 19. I just wanted to let you know from someone slightly further along the journey that I hear you and I understand. It does get easier, never easy, but at some point you'll be ok with the fact you're still here and your son's not. I wish you peace this Christmas. I stopped bothering with it in 2018 and now just hope it passes quickly.

To be financially well off enough to give up work for a few years and focus on my toddler. Being a working mum to a little one is burning me out and totally zapping my happiness 😕

@Goldenboysmum

I'm so sorry ☹️

Hugs @Goldenboysmum

Someone to offer to help, not regularly, just once in a while.

To have my husband back. He died suddenly of a heart attack 4 weeks ago. I miss him so much.

I'm so sorry. I just wanted to say I hope you are alright and to give a little crumb of comfort.