ADHD/ADD?

[ADDorSomethingElse]

Hi everyone!

I'm on MN daily, I don't post much but I enjoy reading the posts on here. I've been meaning to post about this since June!!!

Basically i did a list in my phone and I was wondering whether this resonates with anyone as signs of ADD/ Autism?or whether it's just nothing... I'm 36, and I'm wondering if I should peruse a diagnosis. I've just felt stupid for the whole of my life, and I'd love to find out that isn't the case!

So, here goes...

• Feel an annoying ‘pressure’ if nails get too long and have to cut them / bite them.

• Black and white thinking sometimes

• Feel stupid a lot

• Anxious

• Can read a book to the kids whilst thinking of something else and not remembering reading it to them at all.

• Jump from task to task
• Very forgetful

• If I have to learn something, constantly yawn and feel tired.

• Dad used to tell me I “didn’t want to learn” whenever he tried to get me to sit down to learn something.

• My Mum definitely has learning difficulties.

My IQ is low but I’ve had a good job with responsibility (think healthcare)

• Easily distracted

• Never invited to parties (as a kid)

I was very shy, and used to get shouted at for daydreaming.

• Think of other things when people are talking (not with everyone )

• No filter. People say I’m quite blunt ….

• Get stressed with organising , planning , packing. Have to write lists and check over and over.

• In order to learn something I have to write it over and over again for it to go in my head

• I started writing this list about 6 months ago haha

• When I'm thinking I often say to myself in my head "ok so now I'm thinking about ..." and then what is it I'm thinking about, sometimes quite a few times,

• Start things with great enthusiasm diet etc and quickly run out of steam / motivation / forget about whatever it was

• If I don’t have a plan things don’t get done

• I only remember things that interest me, my general knowledge is shocking - this makes me feel very stupid.

• Used to smell my pillow as a kid up until 13/14- used to help comfort me.

⁃	daughter being assessed for autism 
⁃	find it overwhelming to tidy the house if people are coming over as it’s always messy and I’m particular, I even dust skirting boards and clean walls! But I find it incredibly stressful. 
⁃	If I don’t know how to do something I just won’t do it 
⁃	Take too long to make decisions / but also impulsive

can be impulsive when driving.
Got married two years ago and still ha haven't changed my surname

• If I do housework I will be loading the dishwasher and then remember I haven't watered the plants, so I stop to go and do that instead of finishing the dishwasher.

I could go on.

Hiya - I get what you mean in this post but I think you really need to reword it; it's quite offensive to people with ADHD that you basically say it is 'stupid' qualities that form these conditions.

Just a friendly nudge x

I absolutely see what you mean! I will ask MN to edit the title- I think- what I'm trying to say is, not that I think people who have ADHD or similar are stupid, not at all, but that for me personally, I feel stupid in my day to day life with the things I do that I mentioned above... I'm clumsily explaining that I feel that way not that I think others are stupid if they are like me / have ADHD.

Oh gosh. I really don't want to offend anyone.

I've reported my post to get it changed.
And the fact that I've worded the title in such a way...hmm, maybe I've answered my own question!

A lot of your post resonates with me and I'm neurotypical. I do have Generalised Anxiety Disorder though which does sound similar to some of your issues.

You and I seem to be the same lol. My DD has adhd and I now think I have too. Explains a lot

My general knowledge is truely awful. If it's not interesting I don't remember it

You are me 😁 pursue a diagnosis

Exactly what I was thinking. I do a lot of this but to me it’s pure anxiety.

@ChristmasBloomingChristmas Thank you, I'll have a read up on that. Do you take any medication? Have you found anything helps with the anxiety?

@Feetache Haha! I'm never invited to quizz nights! Can I ask what your DD is like?

@quietnightmare I think I'm going to get a mix of responses here :)
How easy is it to get a diagnosis? Are you taking any medication?

@Ihatethenewlook I'm definitely an anxious person, especially since having children.

I started to read up on adhd in girls and she ticks all the boxes. She's very bright & talented but struggles socially. Disorganised. Looses everything. Thinks people hate her.

I take venaflaxine and have had various therapy. You might find CBT useful for your anxiety.

I don't find much on your post that suggests ADHD if I'm honest. Not minimising your symptoms but I see more in the anxiety. You can self refer to your local NHS wellbeing type service and they should be able to help.

I read somewhere recently that ADHD is frequently misdiagnosed in women as anxiety. The anxiety is there, but it’s a symptom of the stress caused by trying to keep all the balls in the air if your brain doesn’t naturally work that way.

@Feetache I hope she comes to realise how awesome she is, I found school hard (I wasn't smart) but I also thought people hated me etc

@ChristmasBloomingChristmas Thanks, I'll look into that.

@SomethingNastyInTheBallPool I've read that too, I'm not sure if 'how I am' matches up with it or not...

I’d say it looks a LOT like ADHD/ ADD.
I have been diagnosed recently. You could Look into getting diagnosed.

@garlicandsapphires How long did the process take? How do you feel since you've been diagnosed?

Quite possibly but it also sounds like you could do with some work on your self esteem- which is often the case with non diagnosed ND.
worth exploring if you’re wondering! And you’re not stupid or unintelligent

Thank you... I just feel it constantly! My daughter is going through assessment for SCD/Autism so it's just made me wonder about myself.

I think I will speak to my GP, but I'll have to put it on my list or it won't happen! 😂