I think I might be lonely

[Workingmum34]

So not sure what to do with this. I have a successful career, great husband two teenager who on the whole are fantastic, lovely house - so much to be grateful for. But I feel so lonely.

I have friends but we are all super busy - some from uni, some from work, some from when the kids were small. But I always the instigator for meeting up,l. if I don’t text them nothing happens. I am a nightmare for looking at social media and seeing other acquaintances with their groups of friends. I know this is just a photo and hides a million things, and when I am being logical I know this is the case. But I just feel alone. Any suggestions? My kids are increasingly independent and I spend my weekends doing jobs.

I have accepted I am an organiser. I’m similar-if I don’t organise it, nothing happens. I have joined a choir and volunteer group and made some friends and do activities with them through those too.

What are your interests? Have you got any hobbies? What is available locally? I am in the WI and have a busy social life around that plus volunteering. I also belong to an active church, there are always things going on that I can join in with. My DS has also left home & my DH and I rarely do anything 'sociable' together ... he has his friends and I have mine!

And don't look at social media .

My job means I work crazy hours - get there 7:15 get home 7pm plus work in the evenings. It’s really rewarding but quite consuming.

But you say in your opening post that you feel 'lonely' ... if I worked your hours I would be happy doing nothing in my free time . I work part time (by choice) so I have time to pursue hobbies, my volunteer interests etc. But if you are lonely then you need to do something to address that?

No suggestions but just to say you are not alone. I'm the same as you, husband, two teenagers, good job, nice home I know how lucky I am.

I have no friends though, a couple of old work colleagues who are now scattered round the home counties whilst I'm in London.

I have spent most of today in tears. I don't have the sort of relationship where I could talk to my mum, she's ill anyway or my sister we have never been close.

I have no one outside of my house and am just so lonely. I'd love a friend.

I think looking at social media makes uiu feel worse

I feel the same op, I don’t know what to suggest. It’s times like this (near Christmas) and I realise I don’t have anyone to buy for other than immediate family and no Christmas parties or outings that I’ve been invited to. It sucks!

Have you tried:
Meetup
Book clubs
Sports/walking clubs
WI
Church possibly

It’s lovely to hear people feel the same. I’m so knackered when I get in that all I have the energy to do is sort the kids and go to bed. I think the darkness doesn’t help either!