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Food shopping, cooking and eating - how on earth do people manage?

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Peasepuddingbloodycold · 03/12/2022 16:52

After about 12 years of working from home and/or part time work I'm going to be in a situation were both DP and I are working full time out of the home, with a commute. I can't get my head round how to fit in the shopping and cooking of healthy, appetising meals on a budget.

Years ago, the last time I was in this situation, meant doing a big shop out-of-town every Sunday morning. Now I'm in the habit of walking to the shops at the top of the street and bringing home a couple of bags of shopping two or three times a week. Picking up whatever we fancy.

I just can't see how we'll manage to prep and eat healthy meals at the end of a long day at work and commute (in the dark). We're surrounded by takeaways and whilst DP is happy to live on vegetables I'm an emotional eater who is already overweight :(

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Seasawsally · 03/12/2022 20:47

Some nice ready meals plus having salad,cheese,dips,nice bread etc in the fridge ready to roll,can ease the pressure.My 12 year old loves the part baked baguettes which taken12 mins in the oven and he will eat with salad,cheese,some olives,prawn cocktail etc and that can be done and served within 15 mins.

blackheartsgirl · 03/12/2022 20:51

Simple meals in the week, utilise slow cooker etc, menu plan and online shopping.

Those are the things that helped me a lot and I’m a lone parent now and this was when I was working full time. It’s hard but doable

Laalaapopo · 03/12/2022 20:57

Things like a rotisserie chicken or gammon or sausage wheel from the asda/morrisons counter are great time savers and not expensive.Love it with coleslaw,bread rolls etc and crisps and the kids think it's a treat.👌

Drillingsaucer · 03/12/2022 21:20

I'm going to do a roast tomorrow and use the leftovers for Monday plus the carcass for soup on Tuesday.I always think,if I do a roast on a Sunday,the leftover ingredients set us up for the week ahead.

Legakimboz · 03/12/2022 21:31

I'm going to do a roast chicken tomorrow plus I am going to do some extra drumsticks and thighs.My intention is to use the surplus meat for chicken and stuffing sandwiches for us both to take to work on Sunday and also for any extra meat,stock to go towards chicken and sweetcorn noodle soup on Tuesday.

catfunk · 03/12/2022 21:36

For me it's meal planning and grocery delivery on a weekend.
If I'm short on time to cook, Lots of roasted veg tray bakes with chicken or fish or halloumi on top - Chuck in oven and ready in 30 mins. and ready made things like tortellini, fresh pasta sauce, fish cakes all with salad. Sachets of grains or rice are handy.

changeme4this · 03/12/2022 21:45

We bbq a lot, so every 3 days I go to the freezer and get out chops, sausages, steak whatever so it has time to thaw in the fridge in a plastic container reserved for thawing meat (still in its wrapper).

there are always salad ingredients in the fridge vege keeper, and depending if I marinate the chops beforehand, then we might have steamed rice with the meat and salad, or boiled lightly little potatoes in their jackets with sour cream and butter, or if it’s a plain steak or sausages, then served with salad and a garlic bread roll also from the freezer and put in the oven to cook (bought pre-packaged from the supermarket). DH always mans the bbq.

I usually have a box of frozen fish pieces in the freezer, if it’s salmon it’s taken out the day before and cooked on the bbq on top of a bit of baking paper. Salad and rice are served as accompaniments.

eggs are always in the fridge and puff pastry sheets in the freezer. From time to time I will knock up a quiche using up fresh vege. Don’t be scared to experiment with what you can put into an egg pie. Usually enough for leftovers the next day too.

I keep a good pantry stock of other things such as canned fish, so when DH makes his lunch of a morning, he might take a small can of salmon (the type that have a nice marinade in the tin) or ham from the fridge (bought from the deli in the supermarket). Plus lettuce, cheese, things that are normal staples in our fridge.

so having said that, to my mind if you have time to shop for groceries every day after work, then you have time to put something together for dinner, with grocery shopping changing to once a week either by on line or grabbing a trolley. Once you get into a routine of menu planning or just having reliable stuff in the freezer/fridge, it helps and it’s cheaper than takeaway.

our DD tried the various food boxes available in her area. The key is to have two email addresses and subscribe when there is a good offer on. Once that runs out, go to your other email address and start a new offer. By the time that runs out, DD found that the first one would start making offers to get her business back, repeat above.

however she does find the quality, quantity and freshness very variable. She will do a once a month meat shop at Costco, take it home and divide into portions for the freezer. Will do the same as I do as per above and have enough cooked to have left overs the following night. So basically cooking only half the week.

As far as motivation goes, the cost of living and freshness is mine, I’m finding as I get older that take away doesn’t taste as good anymore apart from being too far away and I’m starting to muck around with stir fries and the like. A really good website/fb page if you like Chinese is Khin’s kitchen, I have made a few of hers now and have been really happy with the results.

I enjoy a bit of gardening too so will always have a pick as you go lettuce variety happening, so if it’s not in the fridge, it’s in the garden vege box outside.

Being a couple though it’s pretty important that not only one person embarks on the meal prep and cooking unless the other is attending to the children etc. it’s very demoralising if one half is sitting on their rump watching tv and the other is running around trying to sort dinner out. Being a bit older than some of you that would be my pearl of wisdom.. just don’t be tempted to throw the pot at their heads, it doesn’t add to productivity from them…🤫

mincepiepie · 03/12/2022 21:49

It's do and I and we both work ft. We are foodies though so don't mind the shopping and planning. We do a mix of quick and easy, freezer tapas, longer cooks, occasional supermarket ready meals the month takeaways. I always make between 4-6 portions and freeze the rest. Usually have a three week rotation although I don't plan that

Sample week
Saturday: Pizza counter pizza
Sunday: roast dinner/ fish pie/ pie etc
Monday leftovers
Tuesday : curry from a jar/ kit using leftover meat or quorn
Weds: soup and bread
Thursday: Jacket pots
Friday: takeaway or freezer tapas!

Speedweed · 03/12/2022 22:02

Buy frozen chopped onions and frozen chopped garlic - lots of recipes begin with one or both, and it shaves a good 10-15 minutes off the cooking time to be able to just start them in a pan. Plus faffing about peeling and finely chopping that onion and making your eyes sting can end up being a huge barrier to cooking when you're tired.

Cherrysoup · 03/12/2022 23:32

Batch cook. Have cooked frozen veg ready. You have to be organised and remember to get stuff out of the freezer. Do meals that last a couple of nights, lasagna is quick, add in bagged salad.

DrJump · 03/12/2022 23:40

We have a term time menu.

Monday meat free either Fool or Gado Gado
Tuesday Tacos
Wednesday Pasta or curry
Thursday Bean enchiladas
Friday Frozen fish and chips (crumbed for the kids, seasoned fillets for me & DP)
Saturday urg something god why do we have to this dinner every single fing night
Sunday a large meat thingy so there is some left overs for sandwiches

we shop on Sundays while the kids have language class, some weeks i get a fruit and veg box delivered. I am bored by it but its working for the moment.

babyyodaxmas · 04/12/2022 07:30

changeme4this · 03/12/2022 21:45

We bbq a lot, so every 3 days I go to the freezer and get out chops, sausages, steak whatever so it has time to thaw in the fridge in a plastic container reserved for thawing meat (still in its wrapper).

there are always salad ingredients in the fridge vege keeper, and depending if I marinate the chops beforehand, then we might have steamed rice with the meat and salad, or boiled lightly little potatoes in their jackets with sour cream and butter, or if it’s a plain steak or sausages, then served with salad and a garlic bread roll also from the freezer and put in the oven to cook (bought pre-packaged from the supermarket). DH always mans the bbq.

I usually have a box of frozen fish pieces in the freezer, if it’s salmon it’s taken out the day before and cooked on the bbq on top of a bit of baking paper. Salad and rice are served as accompaniments.

eggs are always in the fridge and puff pastry sheets in the freezer. From time to time I will knock up a quiche using up fresh vege. Don’t be scared to experiment with what you can put into an egg pie. Usually enough for leftovers the next day too.

I keep a good pantry stock of other things such as canned fish, so when DH makes his lunch of a morning, he might take a small can of salmon (the type that have a nice marinade in the tin) or ham from the fridge (bought from the deli in the supermarket). Plus lettuce, cheese, things that are normal staples in our fridge.

so having said that, to my mind if you have time to shop for groceries every day after work, then you have time to put something together for dinner, with grocery shopping changing to once a week either by on line or grabbing a trolley. Once you get into a routine of menu planning or just having reliable stuff in the freezer/fridge, it helps and it’s cheaper than takeaway.

our DD tried the various food boxes available in her area. The key is to have two email addresses and subscribe when there is a good offer on. Once that runs out, go to your other email address and start a new offer. By the time that runs out, DD found that the first one would start making offers to get her business back, repeat above.

however she does find the quality, quantity and freshness very variable. She will do a once a month meat shop at Costco, take it home and divide into portions for the freezer. Will do the same as I do as per above and have enough cooked to have left overs the following night. So basically cooking only half the week.

As far as motivation goes, the cost of living and freshness is mine, I’m finding as I get older that take away doesn’t taste as good anymore apart from being too far away and I’m starting to muck around with stir fries and the like. A really good website/fb page if you like Chinese is Khin’s kitchen, I have made a few of hers now and have been really happy with the results.

I enjoy a bit of gardening too so will always have a pick as you go lettuce variety happening, so if it’s not in the fridge, it’s in the garden vege box outside.

Being a couple though it’s pretty important that not only one person embarks on the meal prep and cooking unless the other is attending to the children etc. it’s very demoralising if one half is sitting on their rump watching tv and the other is running around trying to sort dinner out. Being a bit older than some of you that would be my pearl of wisdom.. just don’t be tempted to throw the pot at their heads, it doesn’t add to productivity from them…🤫

BBQ ? In December are you in the UK ?

changeme4this · 04/12/2022 07:37

babyyodaxmas · 04/12/2022 07:30

BBQ ? In December are you in the UK ?

Long quote…..😂 We bbq year round under a covered area

HowDoYouOwnDisorder · 04/12/2022 07:49

There are lots of recipes that are quick,

Pasta, stir fries, fried rice, some pan fried chicken/beef/pork/fish with some salad or veg and new pots

A thing to think about is the effect of takeaways on your long term health

I no longer crave takeaways , too fatty and salty as they make me feel bloated and rubbish and are just not worth it.

Often cook for 2 days (stews, soups) or quick solutions such as packets of noodles, fresh veg (pre chopped) and some chicken/prawn and you have a yummy home made chow mien

BringbackSpringsteen · 04/12/2022 07:51

I think a PP said this too but I find meal planning easiest on a 4-5 day cycle rather than weekly.

Mostly because I can't be bothered to plan more than that in one go. But also it means fruit and veg are fresher and I don't have to factor that into the planning. And if the online shop is missing something, I can replan or reorder within a few days which is easier. It also just takes the pressure off - if I forget something, it's only a few days till the next order not a whole week

Tinywaffle · 04/12/2022 07:53

I’m a single parent to two primary DCs and work FT out the house ( although do get back earlier 3 nights a week).

It’s boring but get a foods delivery once a week and do a rough meal plan, but allow yourself to swap a few things. I used to batch cook but for some reason have stopped.

If it was just adults I’d have a couple of the fresh soups in ( if don’t want the hassle of making them). Also second the frozen veg - you can get pretty nice mixed frozen veg now, including things like ratatouille, med veg as well as greens mixes. That makes adding something healthy easy. Always have the chopped frozen onions, garlic, ginger in - again stops waste and easy. You can freeze pre cooked onions if you want to save even more time.

The go for simple stuff like fish fillet/chicken on some frozen veg in the oven for one night. You can throw it in and get changed whilst it cooks. Can also be used for lunches.

I think once you start it will be fine.

catsandkid · 04/12/2022 07:54

We have this and HelloFresh is a saviour for us. It's honestly been quite life changing! Have been doing it for 15 months and genuinely only had an issue with missing ingredients about 4 times and mostly missing something that was very easy to pick up at Tesco if needed. We only select the low cal options and speedy cook ones that we know can be cooked from scratch in 35mins as we have no time for cooking long meals in the week, after putting kids to bed etc.

We also have a Tesco delivery slot each week for all the other items. I go on and pre-book the same slot each week so we know we will need the food by then and always know to be home.

Tinywaffle · 04/12/2022 07:55

Oh another quite good one for some days is the packets of pre cooked dhal you can get - heat up and throw in frozen spinach and frozen green beans, add an egg. Easy and quick and healthier than a takeaway. You can also get frozen tabbouleh as well.

LovelyDaaling · 04/12/2022 07:58

To be honest, it sounds like you know exactly what you have to do but don't want to do it.

PrestonNorthHen · 04/12/2022 08:40

swg1 · 03/12/2022 17:18

Okay. A friend tells me my method sounds crazy and as though I'm being held hostage by Sue Perkins but it works for me so I'll share it with you.

I have a few meals that share ingredients. For about an hour on a weekend when I know I'm not going to want to cook during the week I will go crazy and speedcook them. I worry little about mess or how many dishes or pans will be left behind in my frantic hour. I just cook as though someone were yelling "AN HOUR LEFT, BAKERS" in my ear.

A standard week will be two pasta dishes (say mac and cheese and bacon, and mozzerella and ham), a hash, and an enormous pan of mashed potato. So the potatoes will be chopped and go on to boil. The potatoes or sweet potatoes for the hash will go onto boil. An entire bag of pasta will go on to boil. An entire large pack of bacon will be fried, then sat on kitchen roll to soak up the fat. The same pan will then be used to fry onions. Small children will be recruited to chop mozzarella, tear up ham and tear up bacon. The sweet potatoes will be thrown into the frying pan with the onions, and then half the bacon. It gets put into a glass tupperware dish and set to cool (DISH 1)

A basic cheese sauce will be made up (butter and flour, then milk, then grated cheese), and then half the pasta will be added, and the remaining bacon. It gets poured into a casserole dish and left to cool (DISH 2)

With my other hand I'm stirring a tomato sauce made of tinned tomatoes and whatever veg and herbs came to hand. The remaining pasta is added and then the mozzarella and ham, with a little left to sprinkle on top. That's poured into another casserole dish (DISH 3)

All that is left is to mash the enormous bag of potatoes with butter and milk. It's usually about three family sized portions when mashed. That's set into yet another glass tupperware dish to cool, because I know if I have potatoes it's only a ten minute job during the week to fry up some meat of some variety (cheap steak, sausages, pork chops) and add some veg (DISHES 4-6)

Everything gets lidded and cling filmed and put in the fridge. Pans get very gradually loaded in the dishwasher over two days. I come home, I grab one of the ready prepared meals and shove in the oven. It is probably the most manic way of cooking ever, and I won't claim that the dishes are the healthiest (though you could probably do similar with healthier options) - but it is healthier than a takeaway, and cheaper, and it works, and it keeps us fed on weeks where I am losing my mind.

I do a version of this but batch cook and freeze as there's only 2 of us.

Southern Indian vegetables with 5 Spice potato.
Big batch of each. That's dinner for that night with naan plus about 10 portions for 2 freezer , label everything and write on kitchen board.
Ditto Bombay potato and daal, I vary the flavours , again meal for that night plus 8-10 portions for 2 and a couple of mini ones for work lunches.
Tonight Roast chicken, roasties, sweet pot mash, sausages, veg, gravy and a batch of Yorkshire.
Same tomorrow night, ready to heat in the fridge.
Tuesday-Chicken biryani with leftover chicken, takes minutes to put together and oven bake. Daal from freezer.
Weds- Salmon, rice, veg
Thurs-Jacket pot, tuna, sweetcorn
Friday is either F&C, takeaway or nice supermarket curry like Charlie B.
Weekend depends on what we're doing.
Busy weeks, I don't do a roast and pull meals out of the freezer.
I have batches of 5 different things so it doesn't get boring.
Essentially Op you just need to batch cook and freeze the chilli, soup and spicy beans.

DinosApple · 04/12/2022 08:41

Delivery slot, easiest quickest meals I can think of. A few times a week no one eats the same thing so there's veg and carbs done and everyone has their own oven thing - fish fingers, bean burger, veg pie, mozerella sticks. Yes, really.

Spanner in the works due to fussy family.

babyyodaxmas · 04/12/2022 08:46

changeme4this

In the dark ? It was 2°C here last night (Kent)

ProfYaffle · 04/12/2022 08:49

We have Mindful Chef for 2 meals every other week.

I'll cook a roast joint probably also every other week which is one main meal then leftovers to jazz up some of the options below.

On top of this my repertoire of quick meals includes;
Fresh pasta with garlic bread, top with rocket, shaved parmesan and walnuts to make it fancier.
Simply cook boxes. Really handy to use up whatever meat and veg you have
Blue Dragon meal kits. Raman, Pad Thai and Thai curry are really good. If you have itsu dumplings in the freezer to go with it so much the better. All can also use up any leftovers/random bits left in the freezer.

I find that keeping a stock of the following in the freezer gives you flexibility with leftovers and the ability to pad out some of the kits above;
wraps
pita bread
garlic bread
chopped tomatoes
spinach
edamame beans
Itsu dumplings
prawns
fish

I enjoy cooking and like to make more involved recipes every so often but don't like being chained to it every day.

BCBird · 04/12/2022 08:50

I live alone and find it a faff🙄batch cook mash and freeze,get some decent frozen veg. I throw a 6 pack of sausages in my air fryer- 3 meals. Try tsming twins website. Lovely recipe for slo cooker chicken satay. Absolutely delicious. Put two pork chops on slo cooker- yummy. I cook a chicken in there too.

user1471538283 · 04/12/2022 08:55

When I was a younger woman and on the road I grocery shopped every Sunday and bought stuff as meals. It was exhausting and boring.

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