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Did I do the right thing?

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Fieldoftrees · 02/12/2022 21:48

Basically me and partner don't live together. He was due to come and stay with me tonight. He said he has the start of cold coming on. I know his brother and family were sick with a bug this week but they still met up. It was a flu or a virus with a few days of vomiting. In my mind I am thinking maybe he was exposed to that and maybe the onset of his cold might not be onset of a cold. It might be a flu developing.

I have an underlying condition now and I have to manage it everyday to help minimise sickness. The idea of a virus on top of this doesn't appeal to me. I know viruses are nearly a fact of life and they happen but I think something like this could be minimised. I would prefer if we wait 24 hours to see if his cold develops into anything else especially considering he was exposed to a bug this week. I think it's likely he might go on and develop it.

Also during the summer a member of his family got sick and they moved around and mixed with people as normal and they all came down sick with nono virus. Unfortunately I also got sick too and it was an awful sickness. If was a quick 24 hour bug but it was brutal and I really think it was so careless and mindless and largely preventable if the original sick person isolated til the symptoms of V&D subsided. When I felt nauseous I steeped away from people and went away from work and went to my room and kept away from people and nobody within my circle of work and family contacts got sick with the bug I caught. That only happened because I took precautions not to pass it on.

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Fieldoftrees · 02/12/2022 21:48

Just wondering if I did the right thing to cancel our plans tonight

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Kenworthington · 02/12/2022 21:54

Of course you did the right thing op. Think no more about it x

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Fieldoftrees · 07/12/2022 13:08

Thanks for the replies.

He wasn't too bad last Friday but he felt something was coming on. Over the course of the weekend his mild symptoms did progress. He's calling it a flu but it's more like a heavy cold. He really isn't well in his chest. He's full of snot and he's coughing.

He wants to come around tonight and to be honest, having a sick person come and visit me doesn't appeal to me. I probably sound cruel and heartless how I don't want to spend time with him when he's sick in case I get it but his attitude is also not great in that he loves me so much he wants to see me and pass on his dose and make me sick. I just don't see the harm in waiting til it passes.

He wants to see me tonight but I'm afraid I will have to keep putting my foot down til his dose passes.

My condition had flared too and I am not very well in my own way. I can stand up and move around and work but I wasn't well since the weekend. The difference is my condition isn't contagious.

I am already in somewhat of a compromised state. Goodness knows what it will be like with a cold or virus on top of it.

Also with so much in the news, I don't want to pick up a virus in case it's the strep A stuff and I am in contact with children. I don't want to pass it on.

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