Please help me. Anxiety driving me crazy. LO had accident and I had a panic attack explaining 2 preschool and now worried they think I'm lying!!!

[mum2boys1504]

OK so I suffer with anxiety and panic attacks. In most situations I'm fine but I keep having anxiety attacks when talking 2 preschool ! My lo had a accident at home yesterday , banged his ear/head and it left quite a big scratch. I took him 2 a&e , they said they're not concerned and that's he OK. But when I took him 2 preschool tp tell them about the accident , even though I was telling the truth , my stupid anxiety made me seem really guilty looking and suspicious!!! Now I have severe anxiety that I've come across shifty . Anyway so I pick him up and they said he hadn't been himself n he was overly emotional, and I felt like she was almost a bit accusatory!? I would like 2 know from Other nursery practitioners if you would test a parent over an accident , or would you be open and honest if you had concerned over a injury. I feel like anxiety is over analysing everything they said. I have nothing 2 hide it was 100% a accident but I'm fed up of now coming across suspicious/nervous when I have done nothing wrong and now I worry they think there's more to it!!! Help me please I'd appreciate anyone who clear this for me my minds gone mad thinkig they think I'm lying when really I had a panic attack! Thank you to anyone who can help me calm down I worried that when they Said that he's been very emotional and that she's not seen him like that before.is she looking for me to react 2 that or is my anxiety just rearing its ugly head??? X

You took him to be assessed at A&E and they were not concerned. Please don’t worry. IF pre school had a problem, well you had him assessed by medical professionals. So there’s not much they can say really.

I know it’s easier said than done. I suffer from horrendous anxiety, I’m on beta blockers that’s how bad it got, so I know where you are coming from.

I would have felt the same way as you.

And to be fair, A&E can be unsettling for some young children. So maybe that’s why
he was out of sorts.

Thank you for taking the time 2 reply. I always come across a little nervous but where he's had an injury and then was really emotional I am so worried they think I was lying . My children mean the world 2 me I would never ever harm them.. does anyone think they were just testing that I wasn't worried ? She usually really friendly to me but did repeat to me that she's not seen him emotional like that before. I didn't really react just said I'd give him a cuddle . He's very well lived clean fed and happy. I hope I'm just Iver analysing her and that maybe they have 2 question it a little ... do you think if they were concerned they would have said so...or would they tes the waters.. I dunno I'm going mad thinking they think I'm lying when I'm not I just had a anxiety attack worrying what they would think about the accident.

I just don't want 2 do myself in worrying and also can't work out is she is concerned or if my anxiety is telling me she is. She did seem a bit off. :(

It’s really easy to think people are testing you, isn’t it? My mind goes to the same place.

Last week, my 8 year old was sent home from an after school sport club as she told the teacher her heel hurt. When the teacher called me to collect she asked “she said her heel has been hurting, do you know anything about that?” Can you imagine hearing that when you have anxiety? Thank the lord for propranolol or I would have gone to pieces!!

Dd was fine. Turns out, someone had kicked her in the heel playing football at lunch and then when it came time for sports club, it was still a bit sore. But it was in the back of my head for days what are they thinking about me, was she saying I was ignoring dd in pain or something. Even though she’s 8 and perfectly capable of telling people what had happened.

So honestly, I understand.

Going to A&E is crap for anyone, he was probably just overwhelmed still. If they ask again, I would mention that could be a probability. But they probably won’t. It was most likely one of those things - they were just letting you know that he had been a bit unsettled.

The fact that you got him medical attention for the fall and spoke to the pre school about it shows that you are pro active and caring.

Please try not to over think it anymore.

I'm a childminder and sometimes children arrive with bruises or grazes from accidents at home, one parent was in tears telling me how a child had hurt themself, and blamed herself for it, but really, accidents happen. I didn't think she was at fault at all.
They probably think you're over reacting if anything tbh, they've probably seen it all before, but they will understand you being upset over your child being hurt. Perhaps they thought he was sensing your anxiety which was making him emotional.
Please don't think they are suspicious of you, be kind to yourself.

I think it’s your anxiety talking.

Kids get themselves into all sorts of scrapes. I always used to say ‘oh he’s got a bruise on his forehead, he slipped at home’ or whatever. It wasn’t questioned because they know these things happen and they know the kids are looked after and loved.

I think you’re just over analysing.

Thank you for your reply and taking time to respond. Hopefully she wasn't questioning me just letting me know he's been really emotional I pray that they don't think I'm lying I'm just a very anxious person sometimes . It sucks x

Than you. I just worried when she said when I picked him up that he's been upset, I didn't know if she thought because of me and the incident etc anxiety is a nightmare and yes hopefully overthinking everything . Thank you