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Stalker alert ...would you be worried?

43 replies

looppyhooop · 28/11/2022 12:47

I'm on Instagram and my profile isn't locked ,I have nothing to hide so didn't see the point.
Anyway a few weeks ago I noticed a woman's name viewing my story but didn't really think anything of it.
Then I realised every day for the last few months she's looked at all my stories.
I don't know her,she doesn't follow me(so purposely looking ) and I don't follow her.
Anyway I did a reverse imagine search and found the picture as a model from Switzerland (who has a different name )
So it's a fake profile
Would you be a bit concerned ?
I'm gonna now lock my profile to followers only
Do you think it's odd?
Fair enough a look once or whatever but every day

OP posts:
looppyhooop · 28/11/2022 14:07

@NippyWoowoo does it really matter if you think it's weeks or months
The point is I find it weird shes looking daily when I upload

OP posts:
ladydimitrescu · 28/11/2022 14:08

Block her then?

NippyWoowoo · 28/11/2022 14:08

looppyhooop · 28/11/2022 14:07

@NippyWoowoo does it really matter if you think it's weeks or months
The point is I find it weird shes looking daily when I upload

The point is your wording in the OP is such that you noticed something a short time ago that led you to uncover something that's been happening for a long time. You've only changed it since I pointed out the obvious hole in the story discrepancy

looppyhooop · 28/11/2022 14:11

@NippyWoowoo oh get a life !
Seriously are you that bored?
Hole in story ...I was asking a simple question if anyone else found it odd that a random fake account kept looking at my profile

OP posts:
golddustwomen · 28/11/2022 14:16

Definitely odd! I would make my profile private. Cut the person off. Probably no point in blocking, if it's a fake profile they'll only make another one!

Ladybug14 · 28/11/2022 14:17

People do weird shit. All the time

Especially when they can be anonymous

I think implying the person is a stalker, is over dramatising it, though. That's not stalking. It's being interested and trying to get your attention

And you have the answer - block or lock down

ChiefWiggumsBoy · 28/11/2022 15:21

I find it utterly baffling that this bothers you. Block the account if you think it's sus. Stop posting stuff that you might be embarrassed if certain people see. Make your account private if this is actually bothering you.

ZiggyAndChanelle · 28/11/2022 15:25

‘stalker’ is very dramatic. just block them, unless you’re enjoying the drama

Ihatethenewlook · 28/11/2022 15:28

looppyhooop · 28/11/2022 14:11

@NippyWoowoo oh get a life !
Seriously are you that bored?
Hole in story ...I was asking a simple question if anyone else found it odd that a random fake account kept looking at my profile

You’re posting daily instagram stories and obsessively checking who’s watching them going back months, and you’re calling other people boring and to get a life? Pmsl

talomon · 28/11/2022 15:30

FFS this is not stalking. Why such drama? You have a public profile. You probably show up in her "you might also like" or some such. If you don't want your profile to be shown to strangers, make it private. Or make your stories "close friends only".

And stop trivializing the plight of women who actually get stalked.

monsteramunch · 28/11/2022 15:32

looppyhooop · 28/11/2022 14:04

It was 9 weeks or so ago so In my eyes it's basically a few months
If I upload a story I check who's viewed and she's been consistently looking

She might have a notification for when you post. Still weird AF if she doesn't know you but means she's probably now manually typing your name to check every day.

InBlue · 28/11/2022 15:34

Majority of posters in this thread are spectacularly missing the point. Maybe not very tech-savvy people…

She is using a fake photo so has made a fake profile to hide her (his/her) identity.

She has other local friends on her page - so it is highly likely someone you know IRL.

She doesn’t follow you, she looks
you up every day to view your story, so she types your name in - every day you are on her mind. That is real dedication.

Why is she using a fake account and hiding her identity?

Could it be your partner, OP? A manager at work? An ex-best friend?

@whataboutya ‘s tip about doing forgot password on their username is great

picklemewalnuts · 28/11/2022 15:36

What Inblu said.

It's not the normal pattern of browsing behaviour. It's a fake account.
It may be someone you know or in your area.

However it is fairly easy to resolve in this instance. I can see why you are unsettled though.

Treacletreacle · 28/11/2022 15:38

Just saying she doesn't have to type your name in everyday. You will be on the top of her search history, so perhaps she's just bored and goes online every day.

InBlue · 28/11/2022 15:39

FWIW if I went on someones insta profile who I don’t follow, like a friend of a friend (not a big creator) and I accidentally viewed their story, I’d be pretty embarrassed knowing they’d probably see it and know
I’d been on their profile. It’s not the done thing at all.

I expect she has a “real” insta too, but switches to her fake account to look up peoples stories and probably to friend people who have a 🔒profile while keeping her identity hidden.

limoncelloo · 28/11/2022 16:17

People are missing the point dramatically... yes you have a public profile and anyone can look but-

Someone has gone to a lot of effort to either make a fake profile or use a fake profile and view your stories consistently, if they don't follow you they have to type in your name (or go to their search bar and depending on who else they've been looking at you may still be on the list or at the top).

I would guarantee it is someone you know or that knows you, not a "bot".

I had a similar thing happen to me, the fake account used a profile picture of a fairly big influencer and followed 17 people... looked at my stories consistently.

Also began to message my bf at the times page with messages such as "you're cute" etc etc. which he never responded to but it was clearly fishing for a response from him to possibly send me (not 100% sure).

We did the "forgot password" trick as above and turned out it was a girl he went to school with and had matched with briefly on a dating app before we met. They spoke for about 3 weeks but never met for a date or anything... I think she was just miffed when she saw he had a gf and took an unhealthy interest in me. The lady 3 digits of the phone number matched hers in his phone and the email address was not only had her initials in but also was a company email address for where she worked.

And before anyone says he was having an affair with her etc. he showed me the messages between them which was chit chat and brief flirting over a few weeks. She asked him out for coffee and he said he was busy that day. She then asked what he was looking for and he'd said he wasn't sure if he was in the place for a relationship right now and was just looking to have fun and see how things go with someone... I'm not certain but she may have got funny about him saying he didn't want a relationship and then her seeing he was in one a few months later...

We were all mid 20s at this point btw- it was all very odd and not something I would ever do but people do act strangely OP!

It's the brazen people that get me- I had an ex from years ago new gf looking at me religiously as well on her own account, I haven't had anything to do with him in a long time and only found out as I had a mutual friend with her and asked them. This went on for months and months! I would never as I'd be worried the other person would see!

Sorry for the long reply OP but I'm hoping it helps as I feel you are looking for an answer- I would absolutely guarantee you in my experience that it is someone how knows your or your partner, an ex, something like that. It's the only reasonable explanation.

People do some odd sh*t.

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Kinneddar · 24/04/2023 14:52

Nah your 'story' is nothing like the OPs. Not sure why you're resurrecting a zombie thread to post the opening post of your own thread

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