I’m so upset

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I feel like my partner isn’t working on his anger issues at all and it’s affecting me more and more

We have an 11 month old baby and I feel so guilty that I sit with a man who shouts and swears a t me so easy because he looses his temper so easy

but I’m stuck. I have no money. I was young when he bought our house (21) so he didn’t put me on the mortgage

so if I left we’d have only my parents to go to and I’d have no money for us to get our own place

i can’t believe I’m even thinking these things but it was just the other day I got such a sad feeling and thought imagine telling my younger self the man I ended up with was someone who I don’t even know if he likes me half the tine

i wish he showed me more love

You need to get back into work ASAP, apply for all the benefits you're entitled to, save as much as you can for a deposit and get your precious baby away from this hideous man as soon as possible.

I'm so sorry. Mollicious is right. Go back to your parents. Yes, you'll be skint for a while but you can pick up the pieces and start again, it's better than living with this horrible, angry man. Please believe me when I say that he WON'T change, these men never do. You deserve to be shown love, but you will not find it with him. You can turn your life around - I was you once, and I did it and my life is great now, but at the time I didn't think it ever could be. Life can be so much better than this, I promise. xx

You can do it.
The benefits system will help you get on your feet.
Once you're ready to go back to work you'll be surprised how much in work support you'll get too so the future isn't all bleak. Pick up the phone call your parents and just go.
Research shows what damAging effects aggression has on a baby's development. So it's important to take action before things escalate. Contact women's aid for support.

Fgs, do you even comprehend the damage he is doing to your child each and every day?!

Get out of there, go back to your parents and prioritize your baby. Today.

Back to your parents, then back to work. Be the role model your child needs. Get away from the abuser.

Your baby is big enough to get the atmosphere you are living in. For both of your sakes, get back home to your parents. You have absolutely nothing to lose at this point. You are worth more than this man is ever going to give you

Going back for a while isnt the worst thing in the world op. Get out of there.

Go to your parents. Are you close with them? Will they want/be able to help? You can dress it up for your partner as: just a brief visit, you need a break, giving him a break or whatever you need to do to get out of there.

Read Lundy Bancroft book Why Does He Do That? (Get it on the kindle app and don’t let your partner see it) so you can better see what’s going on and (hopefully) innoculate yourself against going back.

Go to every free baby group nearby - libraries, baby bounces, stay and plays, so you meet other mums and have a bit of structure in your week.

Than tackle your options for work/training/benefits etc

think about what you’d want for your baby if they posted the above. Then do that thing!

My daughter has been through a dv relationship and had to leave.

In a nutshell you can leave without a pot to piss in.

You can call womans aid who can find you a refuge for you and your child.

Or you can go to your local council who will then put you into emgency accommodation.

Also you can seek help from (any) Council they are not allowed to refuse you as your fleeing dv.

Have you ever reported it or told anyone