How was your childhood?

[flingingmelon]

You get a point for each -

Your parents liked each other
You had a hot meal every day
You had a warm, safe house to live in
You went on holiday sometimes
You were not bullied
You were not the target of racist / homophobic / religious abuse etc
You weren't lonely
You got on fine at school academically (you could cope with what was expected of you)
You were healthy
You weren't worried about money

Out of 10, DS rates ten, although he's convinced his childhood is terrible because he doesn't have a PS5.

In contrast I would rate six, DH seven.

Where would you rate? Do you consider yourself to have had a good childhood?

On that list, I'd score 2, which I am very grateful for.

Treated badly by older sibling but was not physical or sexual abuse. Emotional abuse I guess.

I realise now they were having a hard time for various reasons (bullying) and used me as an emotional punching bag.

Parents (mainly mum) did nothing to prevent or improve the situation.

Sibling and I are now no contact; mum believes she is the injured party in this.

4

0 on Blackcat further list.
My mum says I was content.

On MN a large proportion of posters come from abusive childhoods. I don't think I've ever met anyone who sees their childhood on a similar level to how I see mine, so I know I'm odd/wierd/smallest minority.

2
A whole 2.
wow.

Ten
My parents had little money when I was born but we were never in poverty. We had everything we needed but some things were secondhand etc. By the time I was 9 they were quite well off in relative terms (big detached house etc).

It wasn’t perfect but I have no bad memories and we have always been loved and supported and never cold or hungry etc.

It was unusual my parents were on and off for 20 years. Sometimes my dad would be gone for 18months and disappear. He was 10 years older than my mum and my mum had me at me and my brother close together then 10 years later another 2 children to my dad.

It was constant arguments and violence from my dad to my mum, police were called weekly at times, we were in and out of hostels and sometimes we would meet my aunt and my cousins in the same hostel because she too had a similar set up.

My dad never had a legit job and things overspilled into the family home.... surprisingly my dad's family are good people and they looked after us a lot as kids....

As an adult I don't see my father no fall out but he has numerous children to different women and never could adapt to family life.

0 on that list.
My parents did separate when I was doing A levels but I still saw my Dad almost every day so it didn’t have any negative impact on us-he was still a fully involved parent.

Your post doesn't reflect reality I'm afraid. I scored 8 on your list but my childhood wasn't great.

There's a lot of things you haven't touched on such as addiction, physical and emotional abuse,. Mental health problems.

As for your ds, that's another topic altogether.

About a 9 - there was some lonliness for first few years of secondary, and some financial worries I knew my parents had, but ultimately there was money in the family to see us through. At worse we'd have to downsize slightly from what was in truth a much bigger than average house, rather than having to worry about having a roof over our heads. It was a very privileged childhood overall.

I’m afraid mine was the opposite I was always being hit by the disabled member of the family he was the golden child and could do no wrong, as an adult a nasty snappy drunk.

I rate 4. It's still a struggle mentally. You can never fully recover from a crummy childhood in my opinion. You can learn self care and self awareness which will help you to break a negative cycle so you don't just treat others badly because you were hurt.

8, almost 9 🤣 I am indeed lucky and I am sure my future child will score 10.

Scored a 2 on the ops and 10 on Blackcatinanalley system.

Horrific childhood and am nc with all the cunts who were involved. My dcs got in touch with them as teens wanting to know their family, cos family is important. They have also gone nc couldn’t cope with the cunts talking about my childhood whislt laughing.

8

I wonder what % of mn posters are the 2 extremes. And what % are middley's with not much to report.

Make me sad to think so many mums saying their childhood was poor. Hopefully mn dc say their childhoods are better.

10/10
I had a wonderful childhood with loving parents who adore each other.

1. My parents were critical of me a lot, especially as a teenager. Money was scant at times, but I was never subject to racist/homophobic/religious abuse.

1. Was horrific. Terrifying and never any food to eat.

On @Blackcatinanalley 's scale, a 2.

10/10. It was great.