Posting for traffic (name changed as quite outing). I work in a role at the moment that I hate. It's an easy, boring job, pay isn't wonderful but my partner is the breadwinner and I am the main caregiver to our 3 children and my elderly father so I've just got stuck there.
My boss isn't the most approachable person, he can hold grudges.
I work in the care industry (office based) so we work all hours, shift work, Xmas the lot. It's a far cry from the career i wanted for myself, but due to past mental health issues and having the kids and my dad, I just haven't had the motivation to change.
Until now. I have seen a job, I want it, it's perfect for me I tick every single box. Pay is fantastic and pension etc really good too. But the application form states I have to have prior permission from my referees, one of which has to be my current line manager.
How do I approach this? He has done me a few favours in the past and on the whole has been supportive of my health and family stuff so I feel like I am betraying him by applying, or that he will treat me badly if I don't get the job as he will know I applied (he is passive aggressive so very hard to prove). Really irked at the application form putting me in this position I'd rather at least have an offer before having to cross this bridge.
What makes it worse is that the job is with a competitor.
Thanks if you got this far, any advice on how to approach this I would be grateful for. My partner thinks I should just tell him and not care, but you know how it is and I hate confrontation!!