Lately I have noted that people who moan endlessly and refuse to help themselves get a lot of help. I have seen this on MN and IRL where toxic needy users can apparently find friends who will lend them money, do their cleaning, let them stay over, and do practically everything for them. But anyone who is merely asking to meet up for just a coffee- nothing more!- is asking for too much.
Apart from the above example, I notice this often in other areas. My mum, for instance, is a very strong woman. She was widowed fairly early and had to learn how to do everything on her own. Got on with it with the minimum of fuss, travels solo, is always cheery and never shows her vulnerability. Her reward is to that people tend to take advantage of her and think that because she is so "strong", she has an endless reserve of patience. Whereas other women in her age group ( 70s) are fluttering around like helpless moths sometimes, so they get a lot of sympathy.
Not sure if I am explaining this very well, but I hope posters understand what I mean.