So sick of tears and demands

[DueyCheatemAndHow]

Feel like I've got parenting totally wrong. Kids are just turned 4 and just turned 2. They don't stop demanding, they don't stop crying..the 2 year old objects to getting dressed, every, single, day. Cleaning teeth... more tears. Who left the house first. More tears. Who sang the second verse of Away in a Manger first. More tears.

We went to an NT place this afternoon, had a coffee and a cake as a treat, they see a Robin and want to see it closer so both dash outside despite me telling them no. I end up chasing the 4 year old down who just goes mental a couple of times a day and just wants to escape and lash out.

Despite my absolute best efforts we can't seem to have a nice time. Everyone else says how delightful they are. And when they are happy they are great (they are both very bright).
I must just be shit? I feel tired to my soul.

Oh my, I needed to read this today! No help from me just solidarity. I have a 4 yo and a very very almost 2 yo. It is hard work.

Thanks everyone. We've cone away for a few days and it's already shit. Currently have a screaming 2 year old cos she wants her coat on (wouldn't put it on when I tried) a 4 year old who doesn't stop talking and DH and I barely speaking. The 2 year old bit my face this morning while I was trying to get her dressed. Utterly fed up.

This is really, really normal. 2 and 4 are classic difficult ages. I got lucky in that my two were both fine at 2 - but then I got it in the neck when they were 4 and 6 so I still couldn't bloody win. Keep calm, set boundaries and stick to them (and yes, that can mean taking them home early and ignoring the howls when they're being arseholes) and it will pass. Honestly. Mine were the easiest teens in the world.

You might not think it now but you will miss these days when they are all grown up. You don't notice it, but it sort of just creeps up on you. Before you know it they are towering over you.

My two are both severly autistic. I would love to have them do something most other siblings do like you are discribing. My son does the odd thing knowing he will get a reaction out of his little sister. But not often.

The days are long but the years are short.

Before I clicked on this I thought to myself 'I bet she has a 4 year old'

@DueyCheatemAndHow just saw your other post. Solidarity, can really feel your pain there. If it helps at all, my almost 4 yo has been a bit constipated (problem with the repeat prescription for his laxatives this week) so had a code brown on the way home. I left my 2yo
strapped in the buggy (in snowsuit and cosy toes etc etc) whilst I cleaned him up. Just before I released her from the buggy she managed to wet through her snowsuit, cosy toes and all of the buggy is soaked in wee.
While I’m trying to fully disassemble and strip the buggy, they’re both screaming because they wanted a happy meal instead of the shepherds pie I’ve cooked them.
My DH comes in (once they’re both all clean, dry and eating dinner) and I regaled him with the story of my day. Too long to go in to, but it’s been a real shitter. This was the cherry on top.
He tells me ‘you’ve spent time with both your children, it should be nothing short of lovely.’
Very close to sticking head in oven atm.