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Miscarriage and I have nobody to talk to

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GenerationXYZ · 20/11/2022 15:21

I am looking for a handhold really. It was a completely unplanned pregnancy and the dad was someone who I wouldn't ever see again (holiday romance, from another country, who hadn't wanted to stay in touch). I had made my peace with this and had decided to continue with the pregnancy nonetheless. I hadn't even told my close friends or anyone as was only 7½ weeks but I feel totally bereft. Due to the circumstances I can't try again, with the same partner, like I would do if I was in a long-term relationship. I hadn't even got round to telling him I was pregnant. I just can't believe it's happened and I can't believe how invested I was in this (making plans, rearranging my future) considering I only knew I was pregnant for about 3 -4 weeks. I can't stop bleeding and it's just horrendous; I feel so lonely and can't stop crying.
I feel like if I tell people they'll say it was probably for the best (and probably be quite judgey) but to me, my world is shattered. How can I move forward?

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YogaLite · 20/11/2022 21:11

Be kind to yourself, hormones going haywire don't help. Never say never.

4thdegree · 20/11/2022 22:27

Sorry to hear this. Give yourself time, it’s all very new and when you’re in the midst of grief you can’t possibly see a way through but it just takes time 💐

GenerationXYZ · 20/11/2022 22:51

4thdegree · 20/11/2022 22:27

Sorry to hear this. Give yourself time, it’s all very new and when you’re in the midst of grief you can’t possibly see a way through but it just takes time 💐

Thank you, I think that I am in a grief mindset, now that you and others have described it as such on the thread. I hadn't realised but I am behaving in exactly the same way as other times when I have been bereaved x

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