Who can I talk to?

[justAbitlonely]

I don’t really need therapy I haven’t got a mental illness

ive just went through quite a bit lately and I want to open up and let it out but I don’t really have anyone I can do that to

i can’t do it to my partner as part of it is the issues we were having (we nearly split up)
I can’t tell my family they’ll worry and some don’t know what happened

i have my beautiful baby boy :) he makes my life and he’s growing so fast which I guess adds to my loneliness a bit because I’m needed a lot less

but is there a general help line or chat line I can call to? I’m sorry this seems really weird I just feel a bit sad thinking of everything that’s happened

The samaritans? They are trained to listen to people who need to talk.

If you work, does your work place have employee help scheme? These can often involve counselling sessions.

Those are all perfectly good reasons to see a counsellor, you don’t need a mental illness at all.

I have a lot going on at the moment and I found someone on the BACP website. £45 per hour for mine but there are cheaper (and more expensive), and lots online if you don’t want to see someone in person.

It’s really good to be able to talk about whatever’s weighing you down for an hour and have someone listen, without worrying you’re wasting their time.

Therapy/counselling isn’t only for people with ‘problems’ or mental health issues. Sometimes we just have more in our heads than we have capacity for and to let it all out to someone who won’t attempt to fix it or problem solve can be a relief. So don’t rule it out.

Another option could be journaling - just get it all out of your head onto paper.

Or is there anyone you can deliberately ask? Anyone you know who’s gentle and good at listening? Ask them if you can just have a chat to offload, no advice needed.

Do you attend church, there's often volunteer listeners. Nearly everyday I have someone who wants to talk just as you describe, not exactly therapy but an outside ear. I'm not a trained counsellor but I have 20 years experience of being there for people