Being completely ignored when you have no idea why! 😒

[Curryinnohurry]

Hi,

So DP thinks I'm being silly and am seeing something that isn't there, but I know I'm not. It's blatantly obvious to me.

It's not really a friend, but a woman we see around town a lot and used to have the odd conversation with. Sometimes usual chit chat, sometimes longer conversations. Would always at least say hi. Over the past few months, she completely blanks me every time I see her, like she can't see me. She sometimes helps out at the local pub and will look at my dp even when I'm looking directly at her trying to order a drink. It's so strange! I've wracked my brains trying to think what I've done, but can't think of anything!

It makes me feel like I'm going a bit mad when dp says it's in my head or I'm being paranoid. They're not the most observant though tbf.

I probably shouldn't care, as like I say, they're not even a friend, but it's really hard not to at least wonder. It does make me feel bad, although I know it shouldn't really take up any of my thought space.

Has anyone experienced anything similar? Did you confront them or at least find out why?

Just me? 😬

People are weird , just ask her and seeing she's got the courage to tell you.if not ignore her back

It doesn't have to be a confrontation, but I would at least pose the question if it bothers you so much. Otherwise, I'd just treat her the same way she's treating you. It's not like you're going to lose a good friend

Well this is what I am doing now. Initially I just thought she must be having a bad week or two and tried not to take it personally, but then it became very obvious it was specifically me, so I stopped trying, as you can only be ignored so many times before your pride takes a hit.

I was just thinking actually, an old friend (well...ex friend I guess) started ghosting me this year and it obviously really hurt me and made me question myself a lot actually, so maybe I'm just adding it on to that, so it feels bigger than it is.

I guess when these things happen, it's natural to start wondering what's wrong with you 🤷‍♀️

Of course, I understand, it'd make me paranoid if two people started ignoring me within a short space of time. But you didn't say about the first person ghosting you too in your OP so we only had the information of a vague acquaintance acting different. Did you ask first person why this happened or any mutual friends given you a heads up?

@Dontbelieveawordofit I didn't include it because I just didn't relate the two, but I suspect subconsciously I had been, which is probably why it's upsetting more than it should.

I did ask my friend a few months a go if everything was OK, had I done anything wrong etc, but she just said she'd been busy and disorganised, and then radio silence again. I wish she'd have been up front with me, because it really does mess with your head. I have my suspicions why she's stepped back, but obviously no concrete answers.

Unless you know, deep down, that you owe either person an explanation or apology for anything you've done or said then, as sad as it is, I'd just let them go. You shouldn't have to fight or beg to have someone in your life.
Concentrate on those friends you have, who love, respect and support you.

Thank you @Dontbelieveawordofit. You're right.