Parents who don’t teach their children right from wrong

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Regular name changer, posting here to see if anyone would feel the same as me.

there is a mum I often say hi to at the school gates, as two of our children are friends. She’ll stand with me and a few other parents and we’ll chat most days.
Today she came along and began ranting at us about something that happened between her eldest child and another child in her class over the weekend. I won’t go into too much detail about what she said happened as she may be on here, but it was an argument that resulted in her child breaking an item of the other child’s.
She was very defensive that it’s ‘just what kids do’ and she wasn’t repairing or replacing it, and would be sending friends to the child’s house to ‘sort the parents out’ for demanding she pays. I’ve now been singled out because I said if it was me I’d repair the item as I would want to teach my child responsibility and consequences to poor actions. The mum said it’s not her problem and her child won’t be held responsible, it’s apparently the child’s fault for having said item.
I’m completely shocked that any parent would have this attitude. If it had happened in a shop they would have demanded payment or called the police. Fwiw her eldest child is out of control (her words not presumptions) and I find it sad that despite everyone having different ways of parenting that no one has a right to judge, that she would feel it’s acceptable to leave a child and their family out of pocket whilst teaching their child it’s acceptable.
So would anyone else feel like me and repair the item or would you shrug it off?

@MichelleScarn I had something similar. I went in to see the former head after having had enough. I told her how it was getting ridiculous and it was getting to the point that it was almost daily when my DS would come out of school and tell me how Billy had hurt him today. Or show me his latest scratch. Or he'd pull out his jotter and show me the scribbles Billy had made over his work.
The Head's solution was, "You need to stop talking about it then" she says. "Shut down conversations when DS tells you, it's only making the situation worse and making it into a thing"

That's when I gave up and decided to tell my DS after 5 years of that shit to start hitting back. Hard. Really fucking hard. I showed him how to punch. I told him, do not let Billy get away unscathed any more. Stop being a nice boy and stop tattling to the teacher because you know that nothing happens. When you get in trouble, tell them mum says they need to call her.

Thankfully DS didn't do it and the boy moved schools soon after

Slightly off topic Op but parents like you have encountered are utter shit. I have been gobsmacked myself this week so a kid in my dds class is having a little party for her bday,Her mum rings me and says do you have x y and z I could borrow by any chance for the party?Yes of course I do, says me Thats brilliant saved me buying them,Your welcome says me,Only dont tell your daughter cos shes not invited as its only friends...I mean ffs no words.With manners and rudeness like this from the fking parents make no wonder the kids are mean like they are.

@creamwitheverything whhhhhaaaaaat???
I hope you told her where to get off!!

to be honest no I was utterly gobsmacked and just put the phone down..I am thinking of a suitable response!

Awful isn't it?

Not quite the same but...My Brother was a music teacher and at the end of the term/year/whatever the musical instrument borrowed would need to be returned. Which basically meant my Brother having to go round people's houses to collect broken instruments!

A parent would open the door with no apparent embarrassment or shame at what their child had done. I would imagine my Brother somehow conveyed his feelings on the subject but I doubt it got through.

I got angry on his behalf because I remember at school there were long waiting lists for instruments. Which might have meant that someone desperate to learn had to go without for someone who did not give a toss for anything, probably their parents thought it would be great for "Johnny" to learn the guitar/recorder etc etc.

I’d replace it.
lots don’t, though. We’d just recovered a lovely Victorian chair for our eldest’s bedroom. A friend drew all over it with a silver sharpie and the parents refused to repair it. Said we shouldn’t have pens in our child’s bedroom. They were 10!