Shit life turned good?

[Willmytimewillcome]

My life is crap, others certainly have it worse but still, mine is crap. I’ve practically no family, my dad remarried and lost all interest in me; my mum was a dreadful mother when I was a child and still is now. I’m in a relationship with children, my partner is a terrible partner. I’m a mature student so I’m biding my time with my relationship before I leave so I’ve got some steady foundations for a new start. I’d have to drop out uni if I left before then. Hardly any friends, the ones I do have are lovely but I don’t see friends more than a few times a year because I’ve got the kids/distance/them busy with their families. I’m hardly touching the surface here but to keep it short my life isn’t great and I’m dreadfully unhappy. Will it ever be? Anyone able to share any stories of their lives have went from bad to good? Please give me hope!

With me it's been more of a mindset thing. Working out what I really wanted. Working out how much of that is realistically achievable. Doing what I can to improve things practically. Deciding where to target limited finances. Being grateful for what I've got and celebrating small achievements. A shit situation didn't turn into a dream life, but it definitely got a lot better.

You’re aware that this isn’t the life you want, and are planning to do something about it. One positive move, one small shift and the trajectory of your life will change. Your time will come, op!

15 years ago I was £22k in debt at only 22, I had a child and I was trapped in an abusive relationship.
Now I own a beautiful home, have a fantastic husband, run a business and don't owe any money beyond a mortgage.
Things can get better if you want to make the changes necessary. Finding a way to end the relationship I was in was my first step and then my confidence grew because I wasn't being told I was no good every day.

You sound like you’re on the way to a much better life. You’ve got a plan in place and you recognise what is wrong with your current situation.

Keep your eyes on the prize!

I had a similar ‘my life is shit’ epiphany a few years ago. Have completely turned it around and you will too!

but please look after yourself now. Try to find joy in the little things. It’s amazing what you’ll look back on fondly- even when things are better. I bet you have many lovely moments with your kids- cultivate these times. You don’t need to wait to be happy.