Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Chat

Join the discussion and chat with other Mumsnetters about everyday life, relationships and parenting.

Non productive weekends make you feel guilty?

6 replies

Literaturemakeslifebetter · 13/11/2022 14:34

I have got into a pattern recently as my kids have got older ( 11 and 13) where I do the mimimum at the weekend once the food shop is done and the kitchen is straight, I just literally want to lie down and read and watch films documentaries/listen to podcasts.
I always take the kids swimming ( that takes about 90 minutes) on one day and I walk for about 45 minutes with a couple of local friends( get a small bit of socialising in that way) to start each day to get a small but of exercise in but that is it.

Anyway almost 50 and all I can say is this strange lethargy has hit me where my desire to get out and visit galleries or whatever I used to do has just not there. I do have it in the holidays when not working. I am a teacher so I am really tired and just feel like I am recovering and crawling to the break but I just feel guilty for not doing more than the minimum, attacking a pile in the house, that kind of thing but my friend suggested lots of people weekend like this. I offered to do a board game with my daughter and she was not bothered quite happy doing her thing.

I feel like it is bad to be so restful at the weekend somehow and yet I also just crave this very way of being at the weekend and wish I could just enjoy doing it as it is exactly what I want to do. As a kid I was expected to be very active- we were not allowed to really sit down at the weekend so it must be left over from that, probably why I ensure the walking and the swimming even though it only takes up a few hours of a 48 hour weekend.
Do other people have lazy weekends often like this? I get these waves of guilt I should be pushing myself to break through the weird lethargy to do more on a weekend that the bare minimum to be ready for another week of work.

OP posts:
hookiewookie29 · 13/11/2022 15:32

OP I'm just like you!! I work full time as a childminder, over 50 hours a week. So, come the weekend I don't want to be charging around doing other stuff if I don't really have to. My kids are older one has left home.I spent years rushing around to swimming lessons, kids parties,dance lessons etc.....it's my turn now! So Saturdays are usually spent with the TV on, reading a book or magazine, or crocheting, and a box of maltesers.....I do not feel guilty at all, I actually long for the weekend to come fro Monday onwards!

Swampthing55 · 13/11/2022 15:33

I've been here on the sofa all weekend. Not even got dressed it's amazing

AuntieMarys · 13/11/2022 15:35

Never feel guilty!

ScottishInSwitzerland · 13/11/2022 15:36

Good for you. Enjoy it!
I work full time and am studying for my Master’s, so weekends are a drudge of study time for me. I have just over six months to go and am fantasising about restful weekends.

The swimming and walks mean you’re at least getting out of the house each day. And your children are old enough to entertain themselves. Yep, enjoy it guilt free!

Beanbagtrap · 13/11/2022 15:37

With two young DC and work spilling into weekends meaning I have to get up at 4am to get it done and work every evening. I'd say you're living the dream. Enjoy!

Literaturemakeslifebetter · 13/11/2022 16:32

Thanks you have all made me feel it is acceptable to be lazy at the weekend.I think I have some weird you must achieve domestic things at the weekend track in my head and so I feel like I am failing every weekend by merely doing the bare minimum and not willing myself to do more.

Scottish, well done for doing your masters its hard work isn't it.

I am also studying for my masters but am very part-time ( doing it online over 4 years) and somehow manage to get my one class done during the week this year- last year the class consumed my weekends so maybe I notice the fact I have my weekends back this year and I feel like now I have more time I should be doing the stuff in the house that gets left but I just don't want to- I just do the bare minimum and ignore the flotsam and jetsam that sits at the edges.

I think there may be an menopasual age thing kicking in (woke up sweating at 5 am last night) as well because I just had more vavavoom a few years ago to cook a new casserole or deep clean or reorganize the bedroom and now I just feel like I have run out of steam somehow, like a balloon that has little air by the time the weekend comes and just needs to rest on the bed.

OP posts:
New posts on this thread. Refresh page