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Why are men so dramatic when they have a cold?

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Chloefairydust · 11/11/2022 13:28

This is the third day of my partner being bedridden with the common cold… I just don’t get why men are like this though. I mean it’s crap having a cold , I know, but when I come down with one I just kind of take day nurse and get on with things.🤷🏼‍♀️

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Chloefairydust · 13/11/2022 17:45

SDTGisAnEvilWolefGenius · 13/11/2022 15:05

Is he earring the Dressing Gown of Doom, @Chloefairydust?

You may enjoy the original Dressing Goen of Doom thread.

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OMG just read this lol the dressing gown of doom, shuffle of saddness and voice of suffering all sound very familiar! 😁

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Chloefairydust · 13/11/2022 17:48

StaceySolomonSwash · 13/11/2022 13:38

He can't help being totally disgusting with a lack of basic hygiene? Didn't know that was a Covid symptom.

Those sheets will need to be washed at 60° to kill the germs too. Nice that his "can't help it" is hus way of saying "fuck you, you can clear up my snot because I'm a cunt"

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Oh yes bedding and towels always go on a boil wash anyway 🤢

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PinkSyCo · 13/11/2022 19:28

Chloefairydust · 13/11/2022 17:48

Oh yes bedding and towels always go on a boil wash anyway 🤢

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Why do you boil wash your bedding?

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Chloefairydust · 13/11/2022 19:33

PinkSyCo · 13/11/2022 19:28

Why do you boil wash your bedding?

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Because there’s snot on it … It’s either that or I burn the bedding and buy new, but I can’t afford that lol 😁

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PinkSyCo · 13/11/2022 19:37

Chloefairydust · 13/11/2022 19:33

Because there’s snot on it … It’s either that or I burn the bedding and buy new, but I can’t afford that lol 😁

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But you said you said that you always boil wash your bedding and towels anyway. No wonder you can’t afford new bedding if you do!

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Chloefairydust · 13/11/2022 20:00

Yeah I do one 90 degree wash each week with bedding and towels. Everything else is washed at 30 degrees.

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Punkypinky · 13/11/2022 20:08

I think when the world is basically set up to suit you (as it is for men). And many things come easily because the world is set up to suit you. Then when something goes wrong (even something minor like a cold) it just doesn't fit with their world view everything must feel off its axis -and all the drama is them saying "why is this happening to ME?! Special ME?!" "Omg, this isn't right, acknowledge my specialness and suffering."

Hellsmovie · 13/11/2022 20:09

Punkypinky · 13/11/2022 20:08

I think when the world is basically set up to suit you (as it is for men). And many things come easily because the world is set up to suit you. Then when something goes wrong (even something minor like a cold) it just doesn't fit with their world view everything must feel off its axis -and all the drama is them saying "why is this happening to ME?! Special ME?!" "Omg, this isn't right, acknowledge my specialness and suffering."

Have you forgotten your meds?

Punkypinky · 13/11/2022 20:11

Lol no, I'm just being a bit narky today. Maybe that's a bit OTT 😂

Hellsmovie · 13/11/2022 20:11

Punkypinky · 13/11/2022 20:11

Lol no, I'm just being a bit narky today. Maybe that's a bit OTT 😂

😂

Headabovetheparakeet · 13/11/2022 20:11

RoseAndGeranium · 11/11/2022 14:05

Mine hardly ever gets colds and when he does he almost always soldiers on, to be fair. I’m the one that goes down hard every time — chest infections, asthma, the works. Maybe your DH just has a lousy immune system (like me!).

Same here.

FloydPepper · 13/11/2022 20:13

Hellsmovie · 11/11/2022 15:12

You've chose a weak partner. Some men are built differently

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He should man up? Yes?

Hellsmovie · 13/11/2022 20:15

Maybe lol. who knows

LCopp89 · 13/11/2022 20:24

Well there was a 2017 British Medical Journal article that (if in a very light-hearted way) highlighted that men may have a weaker immune system than women due to reproductive evolution. I guess women's immune systems are maybe set up to protect the woman and any offspring she may carry, whereas men don't have this at all.

They tested in mice so not conclusive, but there is evidence that there are more flu deaths in men overall. Apparently this evens out after menopause so it seems like our hormones might play a part.

That said, I'm always ill and DH never gets anything - we shared a room when I was awful with covid and he didn't even get a single positive test. Maybe I married Superman?

BeanieTeen · 13/11/2022 20:27

I’m not a man and suffer horribly with colds. DH not so much. ‘Man-flu’ is a load of shit.
A cold is like Covid in that it is a coronavirus and therefore affects people in different ways - some just get the sniffles, others are knocked out for days.
People who try and tell me ‘oh it’s just a cold’ when I feel like shit are impolitely told to jog on… although I have yet to ask my DH to rub my feet 😂
I don’t really understand why you’re complaining OP - if you genuinely think he is taking the piss with it then why pander to it?

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Chloefairydust · 13/11/2022 21:46

To start with I was sympathetic, even though I believed it was a head cold and if it were me I would be just getting on with things as normal. I thought after a couple of days he would feel better. However a few days went by and he was still in bed with what I thought was a cold I started to think he was taking the piss and being a bit dramatic about having a common cold…

However after testing positive for covid I felt bad for thinking he was being dramatic, I think he must have really been suffering this time…

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scoobycute · 13/11/2022 21:54

This thread is hilarious and OP I can relate big time!!

Sorry to hear he has covid 🙈🙈

No doubt if/when you get it off him - his "strain" will have been far more deadly 😆

To all the "he's vile" "you're a door mat" commenters...come on!! wise up!! Always a LTB vibe knocking about in some thread!!

He's sounds like a normal husband and you a caring wife! Hope the illness is short lived 🙃🙃🙃

TheGoodEnoughWife · 13/11/2022 21:54

Even if it is Covid, even if he feels rotten, wiping his snot on the duvet is absolutely disgusting and there is no excuse.

More fool you to now feel bad for pointing that out to him. Gross.

TheGoodEnoughWife · 13/11/2022 21:55

scoobycute · 13/11/2022 21:54

This thread is hilarious and OP I can relate big time!!

Sorry to hear he has covid 🙈🙈

No doubt if/when you get it off him - his "strain" will have been far more deadly 😆

To all the "he's vile" "you're a door mat" commenters...come on!! wise up!! Always a LTB vibe knocking about in some thread!!

He's sounds like a normal husband and you a caring wife! Hope the illness is short lived 🙃🙃🙃

A normal husband?! Do all husbands wipe their snot on the duvet? Mine doesn't. Maybe I have a faulty one?

Echobelly · 13/11/2022 21:59

My DH isn't melodramatic but he will repeat again and again (as it seems to me) that he isn't well - and a year or two ago he explained he says it as he wants to be clear why he's not up and about doing things, and that he's not just lying around - and it made me a bit more sympathetic! I don't know if that's what the deal is with other men to some extent.

It also made me realise I need to be a bit clearer when I'm unwell because I think this is how he needs being not well communicated to him.

It always used to bug me that me saying things like 'I think I'm coming down with that bug DS had last week' or 'I have a cold' it just doesn't seem to get through to him that I wasn't well and I think it's perhaps because I'm usually getting on with things while saying that that he doesn't take it in as I'm not laid up in bed. I've found he gets the message if I am very specific and unambiguous, eg 'I am actually feeling really rough with this cold so I can't go to the supermarket [or whatever needs doing], can you go?' or whatever it is. Then he gets the message.

scoobycute · 13/11/2022 22:00

@TheGoodEnoughWife no mine doesn't either but it's just not the most offensive thing in the world...

TheGoodEnoughWife · 13/11/2022 22:01

Maybe not the most offensive thing in the world (!) but in a home environment it is gross. And completely unacceptable in my home. I have never felt the need to do it and don't live with anyone else that would either. Thank goodness.

FourChimneys · 13/11/2022 22:02

I agree with minipie about periods. Women are fine about feeling off or in pain on a regular basis. Some men just can't cope with a cold, or think they should have a woman pandering to their every pathetic need.

And don't even think about the way they slop about on the sofa in a manky old dressing gown you wouldn't even line a dog's bed with. So unattractive.

PinkSyCo · 13/11/2022 22:09

scoobycute · 13/11/2022 21:54

This thread is hilarious and OP I can relate big time!!

Sorry to hear he has covid 🙈🙈

No doubt if/when you get it off him - his "strain" will have been far more deadly 😆

To all the "he's vile" "you're a door mat" commenters...come on!! wise up!! Always a LTB vibe knocking about in some thread!!

He's sounds like a normal husband and you a caring wife! Hope the illness is short lived 🙃🙃🙃

I think it’s the women massaging the feet of filthy, disrespectful men who need to fucking wise up!!

MissMogwai · 13/11/2022 22:15

Hopefully he'll recover soon OP for both your sakes!

My DH also refuses medication when he's got a cold/headache/whatever. It drives me mad, as he then shuffles around, doing a 'poorly' voice and feeling sorry for himself.

It can't be that bad if you won't take anything ffs!

I try and be sympathetic I'm not at all but I have little patience with the martyr act!