Freaking myself out, which is more likely?

[ABrotherWhoLooksLikeHellMugYou]

Nearly 40. Had the most horrific pmt this month. Last week was filled with rage, which is not normal for me. I'm usually more weepy. Been exhausted and tearful and eating all of the sugar (normal, but now extreme and for longer than normal).
Stated wondering if it might be the start of perimenopause. Many of my friends are a few years older so I've been surrounded by discussion on this topic and it seemed possible, albeit depressing.

Woke up this morning and thought "shit, what if I'm pregnant?"
My tracker app says it was due 3 days ago, though my cycle has been a bit wonky lately due to stress. DP and I have been using the usual protection. He is currently away for work and not currently contactable so I'm freaking out here.

In case anyone has anything calming to say.

Just to establish tone i have 2 older primary aged children and absolutely no desire for another. I have neither the energy nor the courage to go through that again.

What if you are? Aren’t you more likely to find out from a pregnancy test than asking on here?

1. My cycle is wonky due to stress.
2. Using protection.

I wouldn't be too worried yet. I've missed a month due to stress previously and whilst it felt weird it sorted itself out. Do you have any other symptoms, sore boobs, nausea, funny taste in your mouth?

Well, one of the joys of peri menopause (that I've been in since late 30s yah!) Is that your cycle goes to shit. So very likely.

I’m your age and the rage is lovely new symptom for me too. Periods also all over the place. My doctor insists I’m too young for peri menopause but I’m certain that’s not true. I’m the one living in this body and have felt a definite shift over the last year or so, periods gone from clockwork to showing up whenever they feel like it, and rage like I’ve never known. It’s shit so you have my sympathy. I’d test today, just for your own peace of mind, but I’d be surprised if it’s positive. And if it is, you have choices. I had a termination after I already had kids. Apparently the majority of women who have one are already mothers. Never regretted it, never felt guilty. I’m spread thin enough.

If I am then, as a PP mentioned above I'll probably take steps not to be. In discussion with DP.

HOWEVER, as mentioned, I only had this thought this morning and as I'm still in bed and cannot either conjure a test or if thin air or get hold of my partner I thought I'd reach out to a community who might understand why I'm freaking out and be kind, as other posters have.

Take a test

Spread thin. Yup. That about covers it. Plus nearly died having the second DC.

No other symptoms, but wouldn't even be 4 weeks yet (stupidly short cycle) and nausea didn't kick in until 5 or 6 weeks previously.

Ah fuck.
Will talk to DP later and probably get a test if no miraculous AF appears.

What if you are? Aren’t you more likely to find out from a pregnancy test than asking on here?

Wow there are some unpleasant people on MN. If the OP is in the UK, she posted at 6:30 am. As she's clearly not TTC its highly unlikely she has a test lying around. She's on her own, so can't leave the DC to go and find an all night supermarket to buy one. She's had a shock realisation and was looking for a hand hold. A bit of empathy wouldn't go amiss.

More than likely peri, I would say, do a test just to put your mind at rest though. See GP if you can too, if you are struggling with the symptoms OP.

Thanks all. Got a mega busy day today but DP should be home later so at least there'll be hugs at the end.
Appreciate the support.

Have you had a covid booster recently? My 24-26 day cycle went to 31 days after the one last year.

If you're using protection then it's unlikely OP but get a test!. Good luck

Test this morning and remember this is why we have choices - your body.

Been tired to my computer all morning but think I may have some tiny tweaks stomach cramps. Fingers crossed!

Been tied to my computer all morning but think I may have some tiny tweaky stomach cramps. Fingers crossed!