So, just a bit of a background. I was born and raised in Asia, where it was socially expected for men to provide for women. However, due to my how my dad treated my mum financially, my mum always taught me to be independent financially, which I do ever since. Anyway, my husband is British and he received a substantial amount of inheritance a few years ago. Not once I told him how he should use or spend it. Fortunately, he was sensible enough and used some of them to overpay our mortgage and kept a large proportion of it in an investment fund that he self-arranged. In any case, I never view this pot of money as "our" money; and do not take it into account as my net worth.
Often there are times that I wish were a SAHM when works are tough; and juggling work and childcare are challenging (especially during early years). However, I keep ploughing through as I don't see that it is his responsibility to support me financially even though we are married. Anyway, I make sure I have enough saving and keep up my pension contribution to make sure that no matter what happen I will have enough to live on (independently from my husband). After reading most posts here, I wonder if I am being too hard and demanding too much of my self?