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Nervous for first camp for Girlguides, anyone else got a child whose ND and goes on camps with scouts/ggs?

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GGCamping · 10/11/2022 17:09

DD is 8, Year 4. She’s ND (Not ASD/Autism though).

She is very very excited to go on her first camp. It’s 2 days Friday to Sunday next weekend (18th-20th Nov) but I’m only sending her for the second night just for this one (several other parents are only sending for 1 of the 2 nights as well) to see how she manages.

DD is terrified of the dark, think having to sleep with her door open, landing light on, a nightlight in her room, a torch on her bedside table and still waking up in the night crying if it’s too dark. I changed her room to the front and don’t close her curtains as there’s a street lamp outside her window that shines in. She used to sleep with the light on in her room as well as the landing light on she was that scared of the dark, I put a stop to that when she spent most of the summer holidays waiting for it to be dark enough for her light to be on and not getting much sleep (as she still wakes at 6am whether it’s dark or not). She can’t tell me what she’s scared of.

She sleeps at her dads EOWend so I’m not worried about her coping without me, but she’s similar there about the dark, and insists ExHs dog sleeps outside her door so she feels safer in the dark – we don’t have pets or I think she’d want them in/near her room at home.

I also explicitly trust her leaders, they’ve been extremely accommodating of her NDs and she always comes home from Brownies happy and chatty. Brown Owl and the District Commissioner organised a meeting with me when the camp was announced, they were both very enthusiastic and where trying to do everything to persuade me to send DD for the full weekend.

They’ve said they’ll leave a light on, they’re sleeping indoors and she can take her own blankets, teddies and whatever she needs to feel comfortable including her torch. But it will be dark as it’s a rural community hall they’re sleeping in, surrounded by trees and fields.

It’s only 10 minutes’ drive away if she really can’t manage I can be there to get her and BO thinks it might be just what she needs to get over the fear of the dark, but I’m extremely nervous.

Tell me it’ll be ok? She’s really really excited, like counting down to it excited so I’m so hoping it goes well for her and doesn’t leave her terrified.

She’s due to do a residential with school next year (Year 5) so this’ll be a good practice for her, so I really hope it goes well.

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BogRollBOGOF · 10/11/2022 17:21

I've been away with numerous ND/ anxious Brownies and the leaders are well used to accommodating it.

I've got a ND Scout of my own, so I get the parent side too, sometimes even on the same camp if it's a big joint one!

It's a really good experience for them and they have a lot of company to set the tone. Lots of children are having their first nights away later at the moment as many didn't get chance in Rainbows/ Beavers.

thaegumathteth · 10/11/2022 17:22

Dd was very similar - even now at 12 she has a light on and music to sleep. She's been going to brownie / guide / school trips since she was 7 with absolutely no issues at all. They all sleep in a dorm and so they're not alone and the excitement Gets them through plus they're exhausted by bedtime.

PuttingDownRoots · 10/11/2022 17:28

As a Cub leader, I make changes for my ND cubs all the time. Different food, quiet areas, altering activities... we sort it. Homesickness etc... weve seen it. The fact BO is aware helps.

Hope she has a lovely time.

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GGCamping · 10/11/2022 17:34

Thank you every that's really reassuring. Outwardly I've been really positive to DD about it, telling her it'll be fun etc. but I'm inwardly extremely worried so hearing others have enjoyed it has helped

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GGCamping · 10/11/2022 18:58

Bumping in case there's others who've had ND DC go on camps

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CrookCrane · 10/11/2022 19:04

My ND DC went at age 7 for the first time and loved it. Took ages to get to sleep but the leaders were very good and allowed various accommodations. They weren’t fazed at all about DC managing. DC has since been on a 2 night stay and was even happier that time.

skgnome · 10/11/2022 19:15

my DD has been to lots of camps and sleepovers (scouts/guides)
the thing they all have in common is kids sleeping in dorms (she won’t be alone) and not really sleeping - they stay chatting until past lights out and wake each other very early
while I understand your concern, maybe the fact that there will be other girls with her will help her feel a bit better?
and also, as you said is a 10 min drive, worst case they call you at 10 asking to collect, you’re close by collect, no issue
i know one of the cubs with my DD was ND, for camps he was dropped for breakfast and collected just before lights out, and then dropped again next morning - yes it was hard for the parents, but at least he got to do all the activities
for a beavers sleepover (all in a big hall with the leaders) the female leader put one girl (afraid of dark) near her and then the other girls around, that way she could keep an eye on the girl without making it obvious
they do have experience and sound accommodating - just see how it goes

helpfulperson · 10/11/2022 19:29

There is every chance it will go well and she'll have a great time. But if it doesn't it's fine. Next time you, she and the leaders will know a bit more about how to make it work. I had a scout who came to a number of camps before he stayed overnight.

Flamingle18 · 10/11/2022 20:22

My 9yo is ND (dyspraxia) and struggles with emotions and hates the dark. He took his favourite blanket and teddy to cub camp and had a torch to keep under his covers. He limited his drinks before bed so he didn't have to get up to use the bathroom. The leaders are very good with all different kinds of phobia's etc. It's good to start with one so local and it will build her confidence up no end for future camps!

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